My quesiotn is this...is it normal to feel like a throbbing, burning tearing feeling after being imtimate ?

my b/f and i were intimate and i an very tight and havne't been wiht many men. I am also very small down south of the border, my b/f and i were intimate and it hurts really bad, i tried to relax and everything, but it didn't help , afterwards when i went to urinate my pleasure palace stung, like the skin has been tore you know that burning feeling when you put alchohol or anticeptic on with first aid and then it goes away after a few minutes?! can you doctors or nurse's tell me what wrong ? i mean it went away after a few minutes but we weren't bale to have fun so t speak becuase my b/f was afriad he was hurting me and plus we havn't really been intimate for awhile and i dont wear tapax due to the fact they are too big n painful for me is this normal or should i go see a pelvic ezam agian , my doctoer said everything was normal last time i went , but she did seem a little worried about me being intimate due to i have a very small pelvic reproduciton area !

I'd go to another doctor and be sure there isn't anything that needs to be helped along....some girls have a much tougher hymen and maybe it all hasn't been broken...since it does sound like some tearing...that is what the pain is from. Some women do have a lot of pain in the beginning...and sometimes a doctor can help.

If there's nothing that actually needs to be done, then it just needs time...and would probably help to use a lubricant like oil to make things easier. Since tampax hurts too, it will probably gradually stretch and get better....get some more specific advice,

maybe hes just too big, at any rate you need to use lots of ky jelly. yes hes tearing you, you may need to give up on this guy and look for one of those guys who complains his penis is too small.

Well... see your gynecologist again. Usually , the vagina expands as the penis penetrates. On rare occasions, a woman exhibits vaginismus, or tightening of the vaginal muscles . this may be the case. Try relaxing more often and practice Kagel exercises to relax the vaginal muscles. Use lubricatin if possible. If however, you experience a different type of pain, this may be a sexually transmitted disease your bf gave you. COnsult your gynecologist again.

i had this problem with my last boyfriend who, was fourteen inches long. he was far too big for me and every single time we had sex it hurt for sometimes days afterwards. exactly like you've described. very painful, burning tearing.
unfortunatly, i never discovered the secret of how to fix it. we tried Lubes, we tried lots of foreplay, the only thing that sometimes lessened the pain, was getting me an orgasm before actual sex.
regardless of what some people say, the plumbing doesn't always fit. sometimes we are just not compatible physically with guys. i never had that problem before that boyfriend, and i don't have that problem with my new boyfriend.
if you want, you can try various techniques to try and stretch yourself up a little bit, like dildos. to some people it sounds weird, but trust me, it can be fun for couples to play with as foreplay.

sounds like friction burns and you need to be more lubed up... try k y jelly or have him stop next time before it gets to the point where the skin has been rubbed too long and irritated. The down south area is meant for a mans penis and it will expand naturally to help him fit.. but you must be nice and looby (lubricated) hope this helps. Or just wack him on the head with a shoe and tell him to be more gentle! :o) Kiddin kiddin!