Any suggestions for piece of sanity?

here goes im a mother of 2 autistic kids and always the one doing everything my husband on the other hand is always off on hunting trips he is trulely hunting not cheating looked into it they really are hunting and now he bought a gun range more me time for him it seems hes the one with all leasure time and im always stuck i cant take the kids every time i go out thats just not possible the fits in the stores etc.i am just over it but divorce is not an option because of our children,they do burn us out alot but we love them but i need a break please give me some options,I feel like a maid and nurse then after he gets home about830 at nights and wants sex its like another chore im so burnt out...

talk to your husband tell him how you are feeling. tell him your so burned out that you fell like you going crazy. explain to him in a loving way that you need some time away too. you need to recharge your batteries and relax just as he does when he goes off hunting. work out a schedule together for the both of you so both you and he get time away if possible even schedule some time that the two of you can take a break together even if it's only for an afternoon. i know that it is hard to find people to help out in this situation but if you belong to a church talk with your pastor and explain that you and your husband could use an afternoon together once in awhile i'm sure that people at your church would be more than happy to help out. if you don't belong to a church join one not just for this reason of course but to recharge your spirit as well. hope things get better you really do need some alone time.

tell him before hand that tomorrow you have plans to go out,even if its to the mall.tell him you need some alone time and that he needs to understand that. ask him how he would feel to never get out. tell him for you to be able to get out a couple times a week ,it will make you feel more relaxed and you will enjoy yourself more with him in and out of bed. if he doesnt let this happen then tell him your to stressed to have sex with him on demand and if he wants some then theres a pay off to you to get it, by your time =sex.

tell your husband to go and get stuffed. selfish moron. next time he wants sex tell him to throw he legs up the wall. you need to do some serious. taking. better still tell him your going out. i don't come back for a couple of days.

It's easier said than done, but those are his kids, too. Get yourself a hobby - something that takes you away from the house and gives you room to breathe - a break. Then, when he gets home, let him know you're going to do your thing and will be back when you're done.

I mean, does he ask YOUR permission before going hunting and doing all of the stuff he does???? Should YOU have to ask HIS permission to do same?

What helps me is I have my sister, and when life get's a little rough or I am burned out, I call her and she always comes and gets them or talks to them over the phone.

I cannot say I know what it is to have Autistic children, but I have an ADHD one, and he is a handful in itself!!

Good luck and hope you can find someone to help you SOON!!

Having a family is really a big responsibility. You cannot escape the heavy burden of raising a family unless you are really well off in your finances. If you can get your husband to help you in some of your chores, that would somehow ease your burden. Also, it is also your obligation as a wife to be sex partner to him. Just try to enjoy this part. After all, this is what married couples look for in their relationship, is it not. Don't look at this thing as burden to you but as a form of relaxation.

Then tell him you need a break too!
Maybe you two should compromise.......one weekend a month you each get time away from the kids.
Then the other 2 weekends, you both spend time with the kids.

And he will just have to plan his hunting trips and gun range trips on the weekend he has off.
And on your weekend off, go to a day spa and get rid of some of that tension.

Jeez, did you say all that in just one breath?

A bit of punctuation may make it a bit easier to understand what you are on about!

First I applaud you for the time and efforts you put into your kids. Second, tell your husband to clear a week off his calender because you need to have a mental health break. Go to a spa resort (if you can afford it) and just totally relax. I'm sure you could come up with other options for your one week vacation.

how about asking him... you and the kids go with him hunting? sure you will enjoy the trip and the places where they go hunting.

How bout you going off on a 3 day hunting trip to the shopping mall while he stays home with the kids. You need to have some balance and fairness in your life. Tell him, you need to get away for a few days and he has to stay home Friday night, all day Saturday and Sunday.