Should planning a wedding really be this hard?!?

my mother in law to be doesnt like where we're having the reception! and my fiance is in the Army and doesnt really care much about the wedding plans. hes a simple kinda guy. im not sure how to ease her that everything will end up looking beautiful. shes worried about decorating the place

I am married to a Marine and my husband was overseas during the WHOLE planning period. Like he proposed, left a week later, and got home 3days before the wedding. It is a stressful time, but by no means should make you miserable. Your mother-in-law should have NO SAY in where you have your wedding or reception. It is YOUR wedding day, not hers! Assure her that she is a part of the wedding and reception, but only b/c her son is the groom. That in NO WAY puts her in any posistion to criticize your choice of reception halls. Have it where you want to have it, and decorate it how you want to decorate it! I am sure it will be lovely!! This is YOUR dream day, remember that!

Just tell her that it's great to hear suggestions but I'm the one who makes the decisions.

It really is that hard but remember that it is your day.

this isn't your mother in law to be's wedding. just go for what you and your hubby like. he's a simple guy so have something simple and tasteful that both of you like. just keep telling her don't worry about it and if you have problems you will come to her. tell her that you have listened to her issues with everything but this is your and her son's day.

Sounds like you're just getting started. Yes, wedding planning is hard, esp. if you don't have that much help. My fiance and I had to do most everything ourselves because neither of our families live in-state.

Everyone has an opinion, even if they're not doing anything helpful. Family can grate on your nerves. Just be firm. Tell your MIL that you've chosen the reception venue because you like it, and it's your wedding. Everything will look wonderful once you have the tables, linen, centerpieces, etc.

Good luck!

Your just gonna have to ignore your MIL's suggestions. When she says something, just kind of nod and then do your own thing.

who cares what she thinks...just say flat out. 'it will look great! dont worry"" and thats all you shoud have to say. If you need more, try looking online of beforfe and after pics of places that way she can see the difference of whats possible.

Tell her that you appreciate her help and suggestion but after all this is you and your fiance's wedding and he has given you the okay on what you want to do, therefore the final decision is yours. Then to keep her from feeling like you don't want her to be a part of the entire process, find something for her to do like make up a list of potential family and friends to invite. Narrow the list down with your fiance, once you have it finalized, give her a copy of it so that she can gather everyone's addresses so that they can be sent off.

Trust me it may get harder!

Just tell her to have faith in you that it will look beautiful. And that this is were you have your heart set on. Then, don't discuss it any more. Change the subject if she brings it up to other things and give her charge in a small area so that her attention is captured.

This is NOT her wedding! and she should not control it as such. Have you considered asking your fiancee to tell her to back off a little?

welcome to the world of wedding planning and good luck!

Is she paying for any part of the wedding expenses? If not, tell her politely to not worry about it - it's your wedding! My fiance and I are paying for our entire wedding ourselves because we know his mom is very controlling and manipulative, so now we don't have to deal with any of her c***!