Do you think it's right to withdraw care from an 82yr old?

The district nurse has withdrew care drom my mother saying there are termanly ill people who need the care more, the social services have not set up the care package and now have had to send in emergency care. I don't think it right to even use that as an excuse I am not being calous as my father died from cancer I thought that there were different types of care.

Thank you the district nurse was and is still going in we thought the care she was getting was set up by the hospital until social services set up the correct package and also my mother had worked full time up until she could so her stamps were paid I will ask to see there policy(charley G) thank you

I think its absolutley disgusting. This country is shite. NO I DO NOT THINK IT IS RIGHT. I dont know how these people come to their decisions. I think you need to ask to see a copy of their policy. Outrageous. I'm really sorry for you

that is so not right. your mom is old and she needs the care. you can take care of her, can you?

No ! it is not ... Bring your Mother to Scotland and she will be looked after... best wishes to her...

As long as the 82 year old is in a persistent vegetative state and has a living will which allows for the removal of care - you have to let it go - there is nothing you can do.

It is totally unfair what Insurance companies and health care does to our elderly in any given case.

Makes you wonder what we have to look forward to when we get old doesn't it?

I wish you the best of luck with all your endeavors with your mother.

No, every living person should get the care they need. We are highly taxed, so care should not be withdrawn from a person needing it!

That's rediculous. There is no limit to care because of other people. This isn't Pakistan. I'm not sure what to suggest but my best wishes go out to you and your mother. Good luck.

Whether your mother is terminally ill or not I don't think care could or should be withdrawn unless you have been given a good enough reason for it. You should get on to her doctor and ask questions. I'm sure she has paid National health insurance all her life and if so what was it all for?

that's awful! care should be given to everyone regardless of age and circumstance.

The District nursing service cannot stop care on the basis that there are other people who need care also. However, it is difficult as you do not say for what reason the district nurse was visiting. If it was for a medical need for example diabetic checks, dressing wounds, changing catheters etc.. then unless circumstances have changed they should still be visiting. If the reason is basic cares such as help with washing and dressing, or cooking and feeding then this is not a service that the district nurses offer- it is a service provided by social services that organise care agencies to visit based on need.

That is ridiculous, if she needs care she should get it. This can't be right. Something has to be done about it. Don't listen to their excuses contact your local MP and see if they can help. If worst comes to worst contact the Media and get your story out there and maybe then they will sit up and take notice.

bernie that is shocking. please pm me if u can with ur email address and i will try and help u
same happened with my dad

No that is and should not be her decision..unless your mum has the district nurse out for diabetis for eg, and that has cleared. Do you mean daily carers (to get her up/washed/dressed etc, )or are you saying its just the DN that is not coming anymore?
Also does your mum live alone?

this is not right. care was withdrawn from my grandad who had autziemers.but please do not blame the nurse it probably hurt her to say this .this is a funding problem and an obligation by local health authorites to meet goverment targets.that way when they roll the figures out to the media they look good.i,m afraid the elderly are becoming nothing more than statistics.the scary thing is one day we will all get there.good luck to you and your mum

Firstly no its not right.

Not sure how able bodied your mother is. My mother (56 when she died) was diagnosed as terminally ill and the care she needed was minimal maybe only 3 times a week for a couple of hours to help around the house, ironing and washing etc, just everyday things that exhausted her to the point of collapse. So using terminal illness as an excuse is not necessarily the correct reason.

This may seem insensitive but, were there problems between the carer and your mother? I know that a carer has the right to refuse to work with someone they are having problems getting on with. Get social services in to review the case they can then find a carer that all parties are happy with.

We had a fabulous carer who made a massive difference to the quality of life my mother had during her final years and I can only thank Social Services for their help. A job well done!

First I am assuming from your post that your mother may have cancer? If that is the case, they usually start a hospice type program {in the US it is available}. Which usually starts closer to the end, for pain management, patient and family counseling etc.

So to say the least it depends on her specific situation.

The most I can say is you need to be her advocate, I can't stress that enough. Also if your mother is mentally aware of what is going on she should fill out a living will, and a health care proxy, to make sure her wishes are going to be handled by family, or even an attorney. If your in the US, make sure these are completed and filed with any necessary courts, and according to your state laws, {or the state your mother lives in if different.
I hope things work out for you and your mother.