Since my wife died, I've been taking care of her mom. I've asked her great niece to help but she refuses.

Am I responsible for Anna's mom. There is no power of attorney. Nothing that makes me her care giver. I have no legal authority over her. For two years, I've done the best (with state's help) that I can. Her great niece wants to have me investigate for elderly abuse. I welcome this. I don't want to take care of my wife's mom anymore. The home -- we share is mine.

you are a good person to do this.can you possibly find a good, caring nursing home for her and visit her? as for her niece, life will take care of her. and you will be greatly rewarded one way or another. you have my respect and admiration and i hope you don't abandon this poor lady, none of this is her fault.

it seems like you are a good person. if you can do it for her do it. dont let her dumb a.s.s great niece get to you. if you dont she will end up in a nursing home and believe there is no fun there

don't take care of her if you don't want to,but don't stop caring for her if you are pissed off at the niece,,,,,,,,, it takes a very special person to care for the elderly and it is a thank less job so don't expect any thanks from the niece

If she's (obvoiusly) not able to care for herself..then you need to put her in a nursing home. Won't be easy on you or her either one...but sounds like you need your life back....What you've done for the last 2 years is to be commended...Good Job! You've taken on a huge responsibility that you didn't want or need to take. Caring for an elderly person can and will wear a toll on you...I've learned this from personal experience. Her mother shouldn't expect you to continue to give up your life and your future to care for her. Contact an elderly care facility and move forward with your life.....Best wishes and good luck!

no, you aren't responsible for Anna's Mom. You Are Just A Great Guy :)

It seems to me that your great niece is being really selfish! You are doing a wonderful job taking care of her, and if you don't want to continue the responsibilities, try to place her in a nursing home. Also, its best to do your homework first before you think about placing her in a nursing home. Try to talk to your great niece about this and try to work things out with her. If she isn't interested, let the battle begin!

please do not give the investigators a reason to remove this poor lady, if you have to put her in a home, you have done more than your fair share, and now it is time for her real family to put up or shut up. I did not mean an insult about the real family, you are the closest thing she has but let the family that is not happy, pay for her stay in a wonderful home. Is it possible that money is involved here,you are entitled to have her pay her way while living with you. tell her family that care givers get $27 per hour and up, just check with local home care givers, and rate it on a 24 hour day. Have all your facts on hand and thank you for caring for this lady

first..tell the G.niece..to either start helping or shut-up and butt out....2nd. it's only ur responsibilty if it's what ur heart says....but u have ur own life to go on with.....try and find some local living assistance places. if there is nothing legal then you can award her back to the state. you can ask the state's advice on this......goodluck & god bless....sorry for ur loss.