Do elderly parents get better care if they have a daughter?

What do you think? Will their care differ if they only have sons?
Do you have any family experience of this?

I don't believe male or female would be so important as the amount of committment of their child has for the parents.

females can be just as nasty, slack, or pitiful as males.

no i worked in a care home and it was the same level of care from residents family

It depends how much money they have in the bank.

no...i know people (lads) who take care of their elderly parents....they do as good a job as a woman would do...ever heard of female nurses?

I agree with the other responders that it depends on the personality and efforts of the individual children, rather than their gender.

One thing I would say though is that elderly people sometimes find it difficult to confide in people depending on their gender. For example, my father's sister used to buy personal hygiene products and clothes for their mother. When she died, my grandmother didn't really want her son buying these things for her, so my mother (her daughter-in-law) does it, which seems to work well. In a situation like this, maybe a female friend, cousin, niece, granddaughter would do.

Equally, it may be that elderly men would prefer a man to help them with personal things - or they might prefer a woman.

All these issues could be resolved with a little sensitivity, even if the parents had only sons and no daughters.

I think so. I'm living it. I'm taking care of my 84 year old Mother and 88 year old Father. I'm the 4th child out of 5. I have 3 brothers 67,65,48 and 1 sister 62 and I'm 55. All but 1 brother is married.(he's divorced)My parents live in Arlington, Tx. and my husband and I live in Houston,Tx. Now I live in Arlington and he still lives in Houston. All my brothers and sister love our parents, but they couldn't move in and give 24 hour care.After my Mother broke her hip for the 2nd time(4yrs ago),the Dr. said that she was going to have to go to a Nursing Home because she has seizures and falls and couldn't really take care of herself. My 2 older brothers are Married and really couldn't take care of her like a woman can. They couldn't help he with her bath or when she has an acccident in her pants and needs my help. My younger brother hurt his back and is on disability. My sister hurt her back years ago and is on pain killers and now she's still taking them and she's lazy and can't do anything. I had a job in Houston. I was a Musician (singer) in a band that played every week and I also had my own Karaoke business that I did on the weekend. I loved it and made good money. Well, when I heard that Mother would have to go to a Nursing Home and she cried and didn't want to go,I decided that I was the only one that could help her. My husband is very understanding.In fact, he's living with his Mom since his Dad died and helping her. Not like I help my Mom. She in better health and she's younger than mine. I cook, clean, take care of my Mothers bills (checkbook) and take her to the Dr. and I take her to stores just so she can get out etc. My Father is febble, but he's still sharp and does his own checkbook, bills. I came here for Mother, but he needs assitance with things too. He doesn't drive anymore.(are he's not suppose to)
So, Daughters can do more things than Brothers that's why I think they're better caretakers.

The care does differ if it`s only sons they have for the simple reason it is more difficult for males to do the private stuff for them - toilet, bathing etc - especially for the mother. When my late mother was terminally ill i did everything for her as she stayed with me at that time. My sister came and helped when she could. My brothers - well they`d all leave the room when it was time for any personal stuff to be done. It`s not that they get better care from a daughter - sons would give the same care - but they would be unable to do the private stuff. Good question - difficult subject.

Not necessarily sometimes it goes against the old saying a son's a son till he gets a wife, a daughter's a daughter for the rest of her life occasionally the daughter can be selfish and want only her own life

Not necessarily, daughters in law can be very caring too you know! It is often easier for them to help as they are not so emotionally involved with their in laws .

nope it doesnt matter whether they are sons or daughters they get exactly the same care

My wifes mother was certainly well looked after by her,it became so bad that she had to go into a home,unfortunately my wife had to do all the work,her six brothers did nothing.

No, the care of a parent let it be either by a daughter or a son, should be no matter what, the ultimate care due to a parent. God Bless.

I can only speak for me I let my mam down badly & now it is too late.My mam had 3 daughters & 2 sons none of us were there when she needed us.