Care for elderly mother with some scary habits?

She lived alone before we moved her in last year.
She won't do anything unless pushed.
She has to be in every room I am in or waits outside the door until I come out. She sits next to or by me when I am working and just watches.....
It gets a little unerving .
{like right now for instance?}
She was put on aniti depressent in March for staring and mean behavior.
I know she is in early stages of Alzheimers but I don't think thats the reason for her behavior.
It's like she has an abondonment issue.
At this point even I need counseling...anything just to get me away from her!
Any suggestions
[I have older brother who cares for sick wife and won't help so there are no resources for help in family}
Besides shedoesn't like going there
When she does she acts like I am throwing her out.
God fobid should I have to put her in a home.
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She is not senile just a little confused every now and then.
But shows obsessive habits

obviously, you can't change her mind set. Try to change your perception of the situation. She's lived her life and now, it's nearing the end. She changed your diapers, sat up all night with you when you were sick, held you when your heart was broken and now, she's returning to a child-like state. She's terrified. The nearness might be the result of thinking you can save her from this. I'm sure she's aware that she's losing all the freedom she had when she was an independent adult.
I know you love her, or you would not have taken her in. the issue of a home, is a personal and family issue, I won't comment on that. while she is in your home, try to ignore the clingy behavior. If she's willing to sit quietly by you, let her. I would tell her, not to comment about what you write in emails and such which is not her business...if she's not really with -it, she probably has little to say about you write online anyway...
If she's elderly now, she never learned about computers and what she did learn about them changed soo much, she wouldn't know where to start with them... Try to be loving and gentle and realize this is hard for her too.

Have you tried talking to her about it? I know she's getting senile, but if she's got enough faculty left you might try asking her.

maybe she'll mentally unwell... you shud explain all these problems to a psychatrist instead of writing them here.. im sure a session wid the psychatrist will tell you why she acts so strange and may help to help you and her both!!

Check into home services for the elderly. She does seem to have a fear of being by herself. If her mind is beginning to slip, you are someone familiar and that gives her a sense of security. Try out a home service with a few different caseworkers. Treat the person like a friend and see if your mother responds to any of them in a positive manner. If that works, you can get a day or so to yourself while the caseworker is with your Mom.

Quoting>>obviously, you can't change her mind set. Try to change your perception of the situation. She's lived her life and now, it's nearing the end. She changed your diapers, sat up all night with you when you were sick, held you when your heart was broken and now, she's returning to a child-like state. She's terrified. The nearness might be the result of thinking you can save her from this. I'm sure she's aware that she's losing all the freedom she had when she was an independent adult.
I know you love her, or you would not have taken her in. the issue of a home, is a personal and family issue, I won't comment on that. while she is in your home, try to ignore the clingy behavior. If she's willing to sit quietly by you, let her. I would tell her, not to comment about what you write in emails and such which is not her business...if she's not really with -it, she probably has little to say about you write online anyway...
If she's elderly now, she never learned about computers and what she did learn about them changed soo much, she wouldn't know where to start with them... Try to be loving and gentle and realize this is hard for her too.>>> NOW MY OPINION added>> When she is gone, you will be saying to yourself, I wish I hadn't complained so much, and that she was still here with me- get her an activity to do, that will keep her busy-a puzzle, book, cards, whatever she might be entertained with for awhile to give you some time and space for yourself- maybe a pet?- Best of Luck!