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Is there a doctor or coroner out there who can answer my questions?I believe a hospital sent my mom home dead.


My mom passed away in July.All day she was doing fine.normal assesments.At 6:30 she turned critical.At 6:45 she was discharged to Hospice(they had a van to bring her home.When it arrived,both attendents were sitting up front,with the windows down and air off.(they said old people are always cold so they keep it off.When they opened the van my mom was on a stretcher with too many straps,and heat poured out of the van.They took my mother into my foyer and this is what she looked like.Laying on her back,her arms at her sides,her head tilted all the way bck,eyes open,mouth wide open,no breath,movement,blink,zip.And her body and face were so swelled we could hardly recognize her.How long after you die do you swell?The nurse came without anything.From 7:45 til 9 she kept saying she felt a pulse.I layed next to her,there was no pulse.Hospitals are not permitted to send critical paients to hospice to bring home,and they can't send dead people either.The drivers said they picked her up like t

I'm very sorry for your loss, and I hope all goes well.
As for your question, signs that show a person is indeed dead are:
No breathing for a prolonged period of time,
No heartbeat,
Eyes fixed and slightly open, with enlarged pupils,
Jaw relaxed, with the mouth slightly open;
The swelling of either the extremities or the entire body starts during the preactive stage of dying, this means before the person is dead. So the drivers might have picked her up during this stage and she might have died during the trip.
Also when someone dies, all the body fluids come out of the body since the organs are no longer functioning (urine, etc.) I don't know if you noticed any of that.
But I do think the hospital acted wrongly, if the drivers say they 'picked her that way' then that obviously means she was already dying, or maybe even dead.
I hope my answer doesn't disturb you and I hope I've helped you.
So sorry for your loss,
Be strong.

i'm so sorry honey
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not to sound bad but it's been 6 months since she passed and you need to start getting on with your life, she's in peace and not suffering and you can't try and find excuses or blame the death on something, it happens to everyone and when its there time its there time nothing can change that or bring her back she'd want you to be happy and continue to live your life
i'm sorry x

My mother is a hospice nurse and i for one can tell you that what they did was TOTALLY wrong! They cannot send a critical person home. If they truly put her on hospice they would have brought meds, and supplies and the nurse would have stayed for quite awhile getting her vitals and assessment. If you have someway of getting her records, take them to a lawyer. You and your mother were treated inhumanly and that hospice or hospital needs to be shutdown.

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