How do I deal with the loss of my mother?

2 weeks ago. My mother went from the hospital to hospice in a matter of a day. I spent 4 days in hospice with her thinking that she was going to have this recovery. She did not. Iwas all bymyself with her. I watched her going from talking to confused to not talking a coma type state She did sit up when my brothers and I were all there and tell us she loved us with all her heart. She asked for the nurse and told us to leave because they came for her. She just kept saying she loved us with all her heart. I leaned over her my tears were running down my face. I knew she needed me to tell her it was ok that she could go with them. And that all her kids were there and we loved her with all our hearts. She went into a sleep state and my brothers left. 2 days later I was tired because I had been up for a few days. i told her I was just going to rest my eyes. I layed right by her bed and within an hour and a half something woke me up and she was gone. I am so sad.

you take one day at a time, and keep God in your heart. he will get you threw the pain and the empty space in your heart.

I am so sorry for your loss. A friend of mine's Mom passed in January from cancer and it was painful to watch. With it being YOUR Mom, I can't imagine your pain. You know that she loved you and she went out peacefully. I am so glad that she did not suffer.

Bless you and your family.

I watched my father die in the ICU and I guess you deal with it first by mourning her loss first as it is important, recognize that the sadness is there and it is legitimate. Second, it sounds like you feel guilt on sleeping and waking up to find her gone, it's hard but I say forgive yourself, I know because there was a time I thought that I could've done something else to help the doctors revive my father...in reality there was nothing you and I could do so please learn to forgive. Last, accept the situation...yes, your mom is gone but I think her life is still a celebration as you sound like a good person. She has you as a legacy to leave so it's not a complete loss at all. God bless you!

I am very sorry to hear about your mothers passing.This is a very touchy subject.You just have to take one day at a time. There is no time limit on grieving take as long as you need. Try to remember all the good things and the good times you had with your mom.Look at pictures and talk about her as much as you want.You will get through this. Try to be with your friends and your sisters and brothers as much as you can. Always remember no matter what you do nothing will bring her back.Part of life is dying and it is going to happen to all of us. There is no explanation for this it is just the way of life. Life is not alway easy but we have to make the best of what we have.You grieve as long as you have to and maybe you could even see a councellor at school or something that may be able to help you a bit better than anybody here on yahoo answers. Cause sometimes we don't have all the answers/ do the best you can and again I am so sorry for your loss.

You were fortune to be able to say goodbye..I was not able to say goodbye to my mother, she died instantly of a cardio-infarction....it has taken me years to process this. My father died slowly, was in hospice care for several months, but the family was able to process his passing. It is extremely painful to lose a parent, no matter what cause, for myself, I always remember their birthday in my heart and know they are at peace and not in pain anymore. To be remembered, loved, and respected is the greatest gift of a life well lived. Your grief will be a process for you and everyone handles in different ways. Bless you dear.

my dad died a few years ago.. and watching it happen in the hospital was the worst... but after he was gone I kept thinking to myself that he would want me to think of the good times and not think of the last days.. I try and remember when he was alive and things we did, however it took a while, no one can know exaclty what you are going through, I can tell you that life does return to normal although never the exact same beacuse that person is gone. I am praying that you will find peace and stregnth to get through the passing of your loved one. I was always glad even though I had to basically watch him pass away over a period of a few days , i was thankful that I at least got to tell him how much he meant to me one last time, as where if he was taken suddenly I think that I would of lived a life of what I should of done or said. I hope you find comfort in some way.