Girls need your kind advice?

i just found out sunday.one of my adoptive mom sisters is dying and on hospice.you know where a nurse takes care of you until you die.I know I should cry to let my pain and sadness out,but right now im still in shock.i havent had to deal with a death in a long while.need guidance and support.is being in shock harmfull?

for any and all girls who help me i send you my love.

Shock is natural. It is not harmful. Cry if you need to cry but, do it with family or friends. My thoughts are with you.

being in shock is normal and is just part of the way you are dealing with this...

its your way of preparing yourself for what is to come, and dont worry, you will cry when you are ready to

grief is an honest and natural emotion

let it come and cry when you need to

it shows the person that you loved them

there are steps in grieving, right now shock is the step you are going through, then acceptance and sorrow

no one can tell you how to feel, and no order is wrong, it's personal and the way you handle it is your way

everyone deals with death in their own way, some people dont even cry until way after, some people deny that it bothers them for a while until it truley sinks in, some people stay strong for the people around them, you just need to take it in your stride and do what evers right for you. show this girl that you love her and that you do acre, but maybe you just cant show it. belongs she knows that you do care, she will be happy.

Dont be so hard on urself, just because u dont cry doesnt mean u dont feel for ur aunt.... we all have our own way of showing pain.... my way is to talk about. good luck

I'm so sorry...It's heartbreaking. I've had my Grandma be on Hospice before she died. And I know how you feel. Being in shock is natural. Then comes the tears. You don't need to worry, you're acting absolutely normal. I know it's hard, but let me give you some advice on how to deal.
Spend time with your adoptive mom, and let her know that you are there for her. In a family crisis, sticking together is one of the best ways to cope.
Let everything go. Start fresh after her death. I know, but with healing of time, you'll get better.
Do things that make you happy. Listen to music, go outside and look up at the clouds. Appreciate life for what it is. Make a list of things that you are grateful for. And understand that even though you are in a rough time right now, that if you keep faith and keep hope, things will be normal again.
Take care of yourself and each other.
~Quizgrl

i sincerely sympathize. it's normal to be in a state of shock especially when it is your first time to encounter such situation. it may be harmful if you cannot deal with it properly. you should be strong emotionally to deal with it. you have to cry it all out in front of friends or relatives. cry it all out because crying can help you overcome your situation. good luck, you can do it!

Death of people close to you is something you can not get over I am afraid. but it is the most real thing about life. you need to let your emotions be. meaning if you are in shock now, accept that. After a while when your tears and emotions express themselves you will feel broken. This is when you will need to stand on your feet. In that stage try to balance between your need to be alone and the importance of surrounding yourself with others who can support you. Occupy yourself especially with charity work to ease the pain. Do something good in the name of the person you have lost and remind yourself that we are never here forever.