End-of-life question (may seem odd)...?

My grandmother, 90 yrs old, has suffered with a progessive, eventually terminal respiratory illness for many years. She was recently diagnosed with lung cancer (although she has not been told of it). She lives with my family and I, and I am her caretaker, companion, etc. We have recently transistioned from a visiting nurse service to a home-hospice nurse.
Her world is small, and is getting smaller every day, it seems.
At first, she was confident in getting out for lunch, etc. a couple of times a week. Then once a month-ish. Then, after a while, she felt too unwell and weak to leave the house, then, her room. Now, she's bedridden for the most part.
So, she's begun the dying process...and she's pretty much okay with it. I'm wondering if anyone has any ideas as far as how to make her life a bit more joyous in these last days/weeks/months....if you were frail and ill, how would you like to spend your remaining time here?

What a wonderful, loving grand daughter you are.
Keep her as comfortable as possible, they often get cold easily, use light weight fleece blankets. Talk with her hospice nurse to explore the option of giving her any pain medications, she maybe taking, in half doses but twice as often. With this method, the person gets as much medication as prescribed, but given in smaller doses they are less somnolent.
Play her favorite music, read to her, poetry might be nice. fresh flowers are always cheery. As she is terminal, see what she might like to try eating. It.s not the volume your after, but the taste experience.
If appropriate, ask family and friends to visit for short periods as not to tire her.
My heart goes out to you and your grandmother.

When my mom was dying of cancer, one of the things she liked the most was when the Hospice volunteer came once a week and read aloud to her. It didn't matter the book - I think she just enjoyed having someone new around who was paying attention to her. :)

If your grandma still has her mind, you might ask her if there's anyone she would like to see or talk to. You might also ask her if there's a message she would like to send to future generations. Is there something she wants YOUR grandchildren to know? :)

Blessings to you and your family during this difficult time. May her passing be as peaceful and painless as possible.

Good luck. :)

As much as she is up for it visitors, talk and memories.

Just talk to her and ask her anything you want to know about her---things you should pass on in future generations, things she learned about life, etc. Just be there for her and show her she's loved!

First of all I want to tell you how wonderful you are to take such good care of your grandmother. I would say that talking to her, reading to her and being there with her as much as you can would be much appreciated. The most important thing for an elderly and bedridden person is that they know how much they are loved and appreciated-they need to know even in their final days that they have worth. Just be there for her and let her know she is loved.

I'm sooooo sorry for whats happen... and i hope that god will be with you all the way... stay with her talk to her, share memory's, even if she cant talk right you can talk to her tell her that you love her. take her out even if she don't want to cause you don't really knows whats going to happen tomorrow or later today. do something really special for her for the last time....
im sorry for everything GOD BLESS YOU AND HER!!!!

I went through all this with my dad.

I think the best thing to do is spend time with them......caress, massage, kiss.....just show her some love. I did and I think it was the best thing I could do. I would also talk to him about when I was little. I showed him pictures, sang songs, turn on the radio to a station he liked. You probably think that she can't hear you but she can.

It' so hard.....be strong.....I miss my dad so much.

I am a Hospice volunteer and I find that a lot of the patients just like to have someone with them...If they feel like talking, we listen, especially about dying. It is hard for a lot of family members to do this, so the patient feels comfortable with someone they know will listen and not judge them. Another thing is, they like to look at photo albums and talk about the pictures...Just letting your Grandma know that you are there for her I am sure will mean a lot to her.