Do I tell my ex about her new mans past?

My girlfriend of 9 years just broke up with me for a co-worker. There was nothing seriously wrong in our relationship, but we were a little disconnected when the break-up occured. Anyway, I noticed her acting distant, so I gave her some space....then she dropped it on me, left me for a divorced male nurse with three kids....here's the skinny...turns out this new guy and I have a mutual friend...and that he's divorced because he got caught cheating on his wife (wife found the e-mails) with a former co-worker, which dated back to when she was pregnant with their last child.....I'm almost certain my ex isn't aware of this.....anyway, I do still care about her (my ex), but without being labeled that 'jealous ex-boyfriend' do I tell her about this or allow her to find out on her own, which she may never do?

Let her find out on her own. She will think you are making up stories trying to get her back, you will then be labeled as the jealous ex who is trying to destroy her relationship with this wonderful man you will never size up too. And don't worry, she will find out what kind of man he is, a leopard never loses its spots, he will cheat on her too, then she will be trying to get you back.

i know u still care about her... but i think you should let her find out on her own.

Not your business anymore. Move on.

STAY OUT OF IT.
STAY OUT OF IT.

oh yea, did I say STAY OUT OF IT.

How do you know that the e-mails weren't between her and him. You say he is her co worker right?
I say stay out of it. She is probably already aware of his past, and even if she isn't it's none of your business anymore. Besides that, she wouldn't believe you anyway.........

say nothing shell probable be back crying on your shoulder in no time!!!

of course you should tell her don't let her ruin her life with that scumbag.

obviously- you still care so just tell her. it may make you feel better

I think you have to let her figure it out on her own. Any advice you give her will not be taken seriously because it will come off as seeming like you are jealous.

You should tell her!!
I know I would appreciate it~

well just let her know that ur not interested in breaking her relationship with this guy... and ur only saying it cause u care about her...

or just dont say anything if u think she'll think ur jealous etc

Unfortunately the best thing to do is stay well clear. if you do intervene your advice and good intentions are likely to be dismissed as sour grapes.

depends

It's neither your business, or mine.

I wouldn't say anything. Who knows what the situation was in his marriage. It's not your place to say anything any more. But cheers for considering it for the right reasons.

Let her find out for herself. Even though you care sometimes it's best to let it be and let her learn that she wasn't the first that he cheated on his wife with and that more than likely he's gonna repeat history with her.

I think you should tell her, since you still care about her. Just make sure your delivery is such that she can tell you are coming from a caring position; your goal being to protect her and make her aware, and not from a position of jealously, sour grapes, etc.

If you guys are still friends I would not say anything. She wont believe you anyways. Just be there for her when he does it to her.

This is difficult and I don't think it would be a jealous issue, it's because you truly care for her and don't want to see her get hurt. It depends on the kind of person she is. If you tell her she may think your trying to jeopardize her relationship with him. If you don't and she gets hurts and finds out you knew about it she could point her anger at you. It's a tough call. I would honestly leave it alone and see how things turn out. Plus it doesn't mean that the new guy will cheat on her. Best of luck.

You could tell her but there's a good chance she won't believe you & will think you are just trying to sabotage her relationship. If you are still on good terms with her, you could bring it up & just tell her you don't want to see her waste time with him just to be cheated on & hurt. But realize you may sacrifice any friendship with her you might have.

Sadly if you try to help it will just seem like your jealous and she will not listen. She must learn on her own. SHe will get hurt big time I am sure, Goodluck!

Some people learn from their experiences and change. Keep out of her affairs.....she'll just think you're jealous. Let her find out on her own...perhaps the guy will tell her about it. Let the gossip lay.

keep ur mouth shut. its none of ur concern anymore and let her lie in the bed she made. move on and find happiness

No matter how you tell her about this you are going to be labeled the jealous ex. I would suggest that you just stand back and let her find out for herself. You can then be there to support her when she needs you. It is in his past and he may have changed. Everyone deserves a second chance and I know it will hurt you to see her with someone else but if you care for her you have to let her go,

As much as you want to go and tell her the best thing to do is keep your mouth shut. Coming from you it is going to sound exactly like a jealous ex stickinh his nose in and causing trouble. all you can do is if the two of you are still communicating is to let her know that you are concerned and if she ever needs you all she has to do is call. If a close friend of hers knows the situation she is more likely to believe her than you.

I don't know the ins and outs of your relationship with your ex now. But since you ARE her ex, you may not be the best person for her to hear negative things about her current boyfriend.

YOU.... Should HAVE MARRIED.... HER..... IF YOU Really.....loved her!

Now.... HE WILL !

Sounds LIKE.... A Extreme Case.... OF.... JEALOUSLY !

Thanks. RR

No. She ditched you and you do not know the whole story anyway. You do not know both sides so let it be.
Time for you to move on and find someone new.

Does it really matter ? , it really isn't any of your business so I would not say anything to her....

Maybe get that mutual friend to spill the beans on this guy? Or just tell her that she can take this at face value, that you are not trying to sabotage her relationship, but that you still care about her as a friend and don't want to see her get hurt. Just tell her the truth that this is how you found out etc. If she doesn't believe you or gets ticked at you (jealous ex and all), you have done your part to let her know about it and cleared your conscience. GL

i wouldn't say a word..she was most likely with him before you two even ended and she gets everything she deserves