My mates wife has upped and left him. What should he do?

She has gone, took the kids and has left him all alone. She simply says that she is tired of the relationship. They have been together for 20 years!

He is cracking up, but as a male nurse, is not short of female company. At present he is immersing himself in young nubile women and not really dealing with his feelings. I am aware that he is storing up issues, but am reluctant to talk him out of his current attitude of trying to forget about his wife by bedding dozens of young women - but this cannot be healthy for him can it?

What would you suggest that he should do and what I should do?

Whatever happens I am inclined to leave it until after Xmas because it will be hard enough without me interfering.

Whatever happens I will always be ther for him!

Wow... what a toughie...

I suggest you let him sow his wild oats... If his wife has been with him for 20 years and he still has kids with her, I guess that they were married very youg. THIS IS PROBABLY THE PROBLEM.

Anyway... he will only resent you if you interfere too much.

He will definitely need you at some time in the future so hang on in there for him.

Good luck.

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He should join the men's movement for support. There's loads of groups on yahoo.

Tell him good luck. he's far from alone; there's millions, if not billions, of men in his position.

Whores just want more cock; that's what whores are. And the worst forsake thier husbands for it. [Between more cock and the government [substitute husband] millions leave for richer lovers] Tell him he's better without her.

Look at what 'not a stepford' has writen below; she's attacked you for not supporting the matriarchy in it's abuse of men. Witch.

It's his business, mind your own.
BTW: Are you in love with him, are you gay?

He is dealing with his pain in his own way, just be there to pick up the pieces when he realises what has happened and how he feels.

He is trying to push the problem away, but sooner or later he will have to face it and when he does, just be there for him.

Dont try to push him to stop his behaviour, because that could cost your relationship.That's all the advice I can give you.Hope it helps.

After a break up his behavior is not only healthy , but
essential to get over past relationships..
Talk enthusiastically about current relationships with him
period.... after time he will get to what you want to talk about..