I'm a male nurse, and a closet gay in an unhappy mariage. Should I leave and take my kids with me?

Do you not understand that the reason your marriage is unhappy is because you cannot truly love your wife. Being gay is hard enough but hiding it from people that you live with makes it doubly hard. You need to tell your wife the truth about yourself you cannot just leave and take the kids. You have hurt your wife enough and now want to take the kids away from her too that is just cruel. Sit yourself down and make some decisions about your life. Separate from your wife and she keeps the kids while you straighten out your life. Everyone in this situation gets hurt. You, your wife and your kids. Don't make it worse.

I think you need to consider your kids in all this. If you are in an unhappy marrage then do what is best for you . Are you planning on coming out of the closet? Is it in the best interest of your kids to take them from thier mother? sounds to me like you are only thinking about yourself and not really thinking about your kids..

I think you really need to tell your wife the truth before you decided to run off with the kids!
I also think ideally your goal should be to remain friends with your wife no matter what. That might seem impossible right now and it might require you to work your *** off and make sacrifices, but in the long run it'll be best for everyone.
In my opinion only civilised parents bring up civilised kids.

Good luck!

you need to come out keeping it in is too hard, if you are unhappy in your marrige then go its not fair to this other person as well, you are holding them back from finding true love as well as yourself. as for the kids...which parent would they be better off with...as a closet gay if you decide to come out and you have the kids is it the best idea to hit them with a divorce and a huge secret you have been hiding all at once....i dont think so.

Have you discussed any of this with your wife? Is she aware of your orientation? Is she a good mother?

I believe that if you need to take an opinion poll to decide the fate of your children, you definitely should not take them from their home. These children will forever be affected by your actions.

I will say a prayer for all of you.

My friend your acting no different then someone who wants to come out of a marraige because their marraige has become dull so they want a fresh new relationship with afresh start. Unfortunetely, this isn't a good thing for the people around you nor your kids and is heart devastating.

I suggest then you ask your wife to use strapons if you want to be sexually stimulated. Or ask her to do other things, but please you still should love your wife and kids after all this time. Don't do this wicked thing my friend, turn from your ways and make a choice to be selfless not selfish and you wil be content. Lifes not about going from one person to the net its about loving someone as yourself. X

You're being in denial and keeping your identity in the closet----is just wrong dude! As for taking the children? What does that have to do with you being GAY?

Once you tell your wife you're A Bi-Sexual..you can count on her filing for divorce----Be amicable about this divorce.....Think of your children and what would be best for them emotionally----Snatching them out of their comfortable home and security they have would be selfish on your part.

You really need to sit your wife down and communicate to her that you're Bi-SEXUAL...She probably knows this anyway....I will not classify you as GAY....because if you were you would've never married----and produced offspring----I would categorize you as Bi-SEXUAL.

It depends if she is the mother of the children. You did not mention the parentage. If they are not her children, take them and tell her that you no longer want to be her husband, want a divorce and that you will be leaving.
If she is the mother of the children, then except the fact that they are her children, too, and work out amicable joint custody agreement.