I am looking for people having or knowing about diabetes.?

My boyfriend has been diagnosed with diabetes, and he is feeling VERY down. He used to enjoy eating A LOT and drinking A LOT (mainly beer). Now, being on a diet (he has to have only 5 portions of fruit and veg a day, and to him these portions are too small), he thinks that life is not worth living, and I am running out of arguments. I have been on the British Diabetes Association, talked to nurses... Has anybody here been through this and would be willing to help?

He is type 2.

I am sorry that your boyfriend is feeling this way. I think men, especially younger ones(I have no idea how old he is) have more of a difficult time coming to terms with their diagnosis.

I remember being diagnosed and feeling depressed for a little while. You are used to living life one way and then suddenly you have to change. It's hard to do sometimes, and sometimes you feel like rebelling.

The one thing to tell your boyfriend is that it is not the end of the world, just a bump in the road. The trick is to find a healthy balance in his lifestyle. One of the greatest things I learned is the Dark Chocolate can be your friend! It's all a matter of choice, and once in a while you can indulge(just not too much) after all we are human.

If you want more information or need to talk you can email me ninamcguinness@yahoo.com

Good luck to you and your boyfriend

Your best and only argument is that it's better than the alternative.He's gonna have to do the rest himself. A caterpillar can turn into a butterfly but must do so on it's own, in it's own good time. Just be supportive and time will do the rest.

My father has severe diabetes. He is losing his eye sight, he is in a very long waiting list for a kidney, he goes to dialysis three times a week, and he is only allowed 32 ounces of fluids a day. I'm kind of surprised that your boyfriend is only allowed vegetables and fruit, but no meats? His life is very much worth living, if follows what the doctors are telling him and make sure he takes his meds then later they can possibly alter his diet, most likely his fluids intake will still be the same. Exercise is so important, and doing activities that stimulate the body not to hold fat, because it will affect his heart, will benefit him in the long run. And if wants to continue a loving relationship with you,and have a future, then he's got to watch what he eats and exercise, those are key to his survival with diabetes.

i have had type 2 diabetes for five years . there is no easy answer , its a daily strugle. i too love my booze. first up meat is one of the only things you can have as much as you want also cheese, and most dairy products. the hard one,s are no white bread, no potatoes, no carrots e.t.c i wont go on any more but feel free to mess me or email

I also just got diagnosed with diabetes and have to cut back on the same things. i still drink beer, but i make sure to check my sugar before i drink. my diet is limited to 6 ounces of meat a day. i rarely follow this. i eat according to my blood sugar. life is very worth living. you don't have to change everything just because of this disease. hope i've been of some help

If feeling full would make him happier, the vegetable low in carbohydrates 3% vegetable could be given him in larger portions. Have him see a dietician and work out a diet he can live happily with. A large male diabetic should have a full filling diet. All that drinking and eating before were symptoms of his diabetes.

Diabetes is a life-long disease. It can be caused by too little insulin, resistance to insulin, or both.
There is no cure for diabetes. The immediate goals are to stabilize your blood sugar and eliminate the symptoms of high blood sugar. The long-term goals of treatment are to prolong life, relieve symptoms, and prevent long-term complications such as heart disease and kidney failure.

Exercise helps with blood sugar control, weight loss, and high blood pressure. and try to avoid eating things which increase blood sugar level

There's no good answer. And we've all been there with Type 2 diabetes. I have had to cut back - almost no bread products, pasta, beer, etc. I still enjoy a bite or two every once in a while, though. But, I have learnt that to have good blood glucose control I must give up - at least for the most part - most of the things I love to have lots of. There's no way around it. It's good control or suffer the complications of Diabetes and die way lots sooner! It's a choice he must make for himself. You can encourage him but he has to make the choice to be health or suffer the consequences.

Even have said that, life is still great. I may not eat a whole slice of cake, but I can have a taste. I can't drink a whole lot of beer but I can have a small glass every so often. My sugar average is about 110-120. Love life is great. And I can do just about anything I want to do. I just have to watch what I eat. I can't complain about that.

My little sister has had diabetes ever since she was born. And she really hasnt had a problem with it, except for the frequent doctor visits. And the only thing that i think is really helping her is her insulin pump. And itll tell her when her sugar is getting low. Maybe take him to see a doctor (again) and ask the doctor all the questions. And some times diabetes people can pass out if there sugar is low. Believe me./ Personal experience.

I was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes at the age of 10, I've been diabetic for 38 years. I've gotten used to the diet, checking my blood sugars and taking 3 insulin injections a day. I know if I don't, I will end up in a much worst place than I am now. I enjoy my life, I enjoy my kids and I enjoy this stupid comuter...sometimes.LOL Testing blood sugars has gotten much easier and more accurate over the years. This just improves any diabetics life.

You didn't mention what type of diabetes he has but I take it he has adult onset and doesn't take insulin. This would give a lot more information for anyone with knowledge about diabetes.

Good luck to your BF and you.

I can understand why your boyfriend is felling down because he has to start doing something so different than he is use to. Now he as to watch out for what he eats how much he eats and when he eats. I've been a diabetic for 22yrs now I found out when I was 3yrs old i'm type 1 diabetic I've been on so many different type of insulin. What type of diabetic is your boyfriend? Well it's going to be a struggle but let him know don't let it control him he has to be in control of is diabetes. He might be felling why him, why he has to have it but he shouldn't be so negative about it. Maybe he could ask his doctor can he be put on a exchange diet that helps me out, like if he want some cake he could exchange something out of his meal to have that. It's just going to probably take him sometime to get use to having diabetes. You just have to be tough on him about what he eats but at least your looking out for him and he will understand that. Also drinking any kind of liquor will lower the blood sugar.