I'm kind of confused.?

I've been seeing this guy for 3mths. We hang out and have a good time. I prematurely asked him about a month ago what he wanted. He responded he wasn't sure but that he enjoyed hanging out and going out with me. Okay so I've kind of put that all behind me and have since hung out with him and things have gone fine. I'm the kind of person who has to know things. If you want in your life great if not I'll move on. He's super sweet and comes off as being shy. He's a bachelor and an only child at the age 32. We talked a few times a week by email or phone. He's open about what he does and who he was out with. (we work opposite schedules i'm a nurse and he's a biologist). My question is what do I do? Do i pull back give him space make him come to me? Do I continue to see him and act as if nothing happened? We have slept together on more than one occasion if that ruins my value then whatever. He's leaving for South America for 2weeks here on Monday for work what can I do

It sounds like you have made your intentions clear to him and he has for whatever reason held back. This is even more surprising since you have both slept together.

From th way you have worded it, you have known each other for quite a while now. You need to talk to him. Sit him down BEFORE HE GOES TO SOUTH AMERICA.

ask him what he wants out of the relationship. He is 32 years old so you will not scare him by being open. tell him that you want to have an adult relationship with him. Ask him why he has been holding back.

you question smacks of uncertainty. It is very difficult since it seems you relationship is quite ambiguous. If you want your relationship to grow then you both need to be clear what your intentions are.

Be prepared that he says he is still not sure. If this is the case, you have to consider stopping the relationship. It is not fair on you if you fall in love with him and he is not able to reciprocate. Be very clear with him but dont pressure him to saying that he wants to have a relationship when he does not.

I am being the devils advocate here. |Maybe he assumes you are both in a relationship since you have slept together and continued seeing each other. So just ask point blank and see what his repsonse is.

Do not have this conversation at work. Phone him up, and put aside some time together. Make sure it is somewhere quiet and you will not have distractions/interruptions.

it is high time in this relationship that he made his intentions clear and actually committed to you.

As for sleeping with you ruining your value. that is nonsense. you are both consenting adults who had sex. There is nothing wrong with that. If you are in a relationship then you have nothing to apologise/feel guilty for.