Advice please, im trapped (i think).?

me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years and bought a house 3 and a half years ago (i was 19). im unsure of my feelings at the moment, i have just qualified as a nurse and looking forward to starting my career. the house feels like its tied to me and i feel trapped. i havnt said any of this to my boyfriend as he is so happy with eveything, he tells me. i just want to be a young girl enjoying life, and feel tied down, but dont have a clue what to do about it. im am so confussed and dont know what to do for the best, has anyone ever been in this situation?

you may feel trapped and confused but look at what you have done. you have a house, and now your a licensed nurse, be proud of what you are and what you have
it sounds like you have been working hard for a long time, before you start your career, take a short break, go on a vacation, if money is tight then make a vacation, go to the park, beach, anywhere thats different, have some fun, get a little crazy, do something that you always wanted to do but never had the "balls" to do
in 20 years you will look back on this and see what you accomplished at such a young age and truely be proud of yourselves
tc

I think you should just be honest with him about how you feel. Feelings do change over time. Just ask him for some time to get everything in your mind together and make sure this is what you want still. I know it may hurt him. Just be honest he will probably give you time and somewhat understand. That is all you can really do unless you just want to feel "tied down" like you stated. I wish you both luck &* happiness!

--Good luck!

This is a normal reaction to responsibility. I had a kid with my wife when I was 30 and I felt like all the fun was going to go out of my life. Then I learned that life is about change and you can't be 19 for the rest of your life. Be happy that you are loved by your guy and you are taking care of your future responsibly. People who never grow up never get anywhere.

yes i live with my b/f too... i work at haniford and i go to school....

i feel like that too sometimes i told my b/f and everything change tell him it might change for you

we're sort of in the same situation...well, i'm feeling the same thing right now. maybe all you needed is a little bit space from your boyfriend. and this opportunity to work or to practice your being a nurse is a good way to start. you'll be working at least what? 10 hours per shift? and you might want to consider applying for a job that will require you to move some place else. just explain it to your boyfriend that you need to do this job. i know it's not as easy as i make it sound. it'll be a whole damn hard telling it to his face that you're not happy with him anymore. i think you're not happy with the relationship anymore because you wouldn't feel trapped if you are happy right? good luck to us...i'm hoping to do the same in the near future...when i have all guts!

it seems like youre deeply committed in this relationship. its unfortunate that youre having doubts now. maybe it wasnt a good idea to move in with him back then. it seems like youre not ready, or want to take things a little slower. talk to your boyfriend about this. he should know how you feel. maybe you can move back home with your parents/family? dont make it sound like youre breaking up, unless you are, but let him know that moving in with him was too big a step for you. i mean, you two are basically married now.. anyways, good luck!

are you really in love? is the house the problem or is it the boyfriend. I'm guessing its the boyfriend, I'm guessing that you are not in love and i mean really in love, the love where the other person is your world. where you couldn't live without them. where if they left your heart would break, you would literaly feel pain . a house doesn't make someone feel trapped, tied down. a relationship does. evaluate your feelings for the boyfriend and act accordingly, and dive into your new career, see what happens,or sell the house.

Well you shouldn't have moved in with him in the first place. Young girls as much as I would have wished the opposite, dont know what they want in life. At 19 they dont even know who they truly are. It is a terrible thing for you to have moved in with a man that loves you and now not feel the same. I know you want to go out there and do what most young people do, and thats understandable. Search your heart for how you feel about your guy, if it ends up that you dont love him anymore, then you have to tell him. You're never trapped in a situation, even if you were the one to bring it on yourself. I wish you and my ex-girlfriend the best on breaking more hearts in the future.