Help me i think i have minor deppression?

I spoke to my fiancee today, to tell him what im feeling inside.
I am very stressed out with my work im off just now with the flu, but i don't want to go back as its not a great job a tall ie the way we get treated, ive been there for 2 years and i don't think it is ever gonna change.
Plus theres alot of things going on with my family right now, my family are all splitting up, i cant trust my sister as she has hurt me, this envolved fraud, my sister put me in alot of debt, using my credit card.
I don't feel like doing anything a tall, i feel like cutting myself off from the world just being me and my fiancee, i know this is wrong but thats how i feel.
Im going to the doctors tommorow to tell them about all this in more detail, i don't want any pills, i feel that i need counciling.
My mum suffers from manic deppression, i don't want to go down the same road.
I want to have a career in mental health nursing eventually as i have looked after my mum, for since i can remember,

as a fellow sufferer of depression, you are doing the right thing in visiting your gp, as the first step in recovering is accepting you have a problem and being willing to help yourself, even though at times it can feel pretty bleak. Counselling should help although if your gp reccomends tablets there is no shame in taking them, if you had heart problems you would take meds for that, so there really is no difference, and with depression you may only have to take them for a few months to help you over this period. You have to be strong and i am pleased you feel able to confide in your boyfriend as you need plenty of support, remember you can always ask questions on here if you want you could keep in touch with me just let me know.

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i recommend multivitamins, fish oil, cal-mag, sunlight, and tons of exercise including vigorous cardio

maybe a stress full career in nursing isn't the best idea and you should get yourself sorted first.your doing the right thing going to your docs but pills might help so don't refuse until you have the facts from your Doctor first...good luck.

Well...it does sound like you are going through a lot. The changes & issues that you are dealing with are very likely to make you prone to depression. With family history as well, I would say depression is a very large possibilty,.
Medication works very well along with counseling. You may need medication for a brief period of time, to help you make it through. Under a doctors care, you may be able to come off of it once you get to feeling better and your feelings sorted out.
Depression is a real illness, not a character flaw. You can't control it, and it isn't a personality problem. It is very real and can be a lifelong struggle.
I wish you all the best. Take it one day at a time. Tell your doctor your feelings, and be honest. : )

It is so good that u can recognize it this early on and dont have any denial. That is a huge step. It does seem that u r depressed, but maybe its just situational depression because of all thats going on. Definitely tell the doc u dont want meds if u really dont and dont let them give them to u till u r ready. But if you do get some, wellbutrin is very mild with no effects of you discontinueit, unlike effexor, which is as hard to get off of as heroin.
Try to focus on anything good in your life and know that in life, we cannot direct the wind, but we can adjust the sails.

I wish u the best of luck

when you can see these sign then it is time to find another job. Yes you are depressed

You should know that depression is also genitic. So you can have it from your mother. Don't separate yourself from people, that could led to depression (If you don't already have it), or could make it worse. Depression can also happen when we go threw stressful points in our lives. It can also be an imbalence of hormones. Talk to your doctor or a phycologist about what you have been thinking about lately, dreams, and or what makes you upset.

Please don't leave it untreated!

Take a vacation u sound 2 stressed life is hard but u should make it all u got.

Could just be "situational depression". Go to the doctor. You may consider going on meds long enough for counseling to help. I feel for you! Take care of yourself!

i agree with the complete idiot..vitamin and food deficiencies weaken the ability to fight off depression usually caused by other stupid people projecting their problems into our lives.

i have a history of depression. what you need to begin with is a person to confide in that is not too close to you, so you feel 'safe' to reveal problems you have without the fear of upsetting anyone. or having your feelings thrown back in your face.
it is normal to have times in your life where everything seems to be falling apart, but it does not mean the end of everything, no matter how terrible it may seem at the time.
my way of coping is to look forward and accept what life throws at you with the realisation that you can stop it from ruining your life.

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It sounds like you are going through a pretty tough time and have come to a point and perhaps you feel that by cutting yourself off from everything, you would stop feeling so bad. I think you are quite sensible to resist that feeling, as cutting all ties only makes things build and fester - it doesn't completely deal with the issues.

Looking at what you've been going through, I think it is fair to say that it has not been an easy ride - to be deceived so seriously by flesh and blood must hurt very badly, as well as seeing your family split up. I remember when my family split up. It was a very difficult time, and it's only now, 5 years on, that my parents are talking to each other. Hopefully it won't be that long for you, in fact I am sure it won't be.

Try not to worry (easily said, not so easily done!) about manic depression. I think that given the circumstances, your reaction and the way you are feeling now are normal. Counselling should help, sometimes it's good to just vent off all that frustration and anger.

You have a lot of problems. And you've recognised them, and want to get help. Thats the first step to feeling better, and if you have your fiancees support, you wont feel this down for long.

you've estalished you hate your job, and want to go into mental health. So when you're feeling better, perhaps after counselling, go to your local college/library, and see about enrolling on a course to help you go into nursing.
One step at a time.

the complete idiot had it right try fish oils and eat oily fish for depression and get rigorous exercise and also try a bit of yoga which will deal with any stress. I say try, i mean do it if you want to cope with this rough patch in your life.

doing these three simple things will either take your mind off your worries for a bit of the day or moreover give you the inner strength and capacity to deal with and sort out the sh#t you are going through at the moment, hope this helps.

Go to the docs chick,as for work they may sign you off until your feeling a bit better,be very carefull what you tell the doctors,i had problems told my doctors,few years later read my doctors notes and they were very cheeky and nasty about my problems,i dont tell my doctor anything now,just be carefull,and i really hope things pick up chick,at least you have your fiancee,take care

you poor thing i have suffered with depression since i was forteen i am now thirty. believe me life doe's get better, do see your doctor they can and will help you. counciling doe's help but you do need to make change's in your life for the better only you can decide what those changes are going to be. if your job is bringing you down that much find another one there are lots of jobs out there and do try to get your boyfriend to understand support of a loved one is the most important thing you can have.
good luck in the future!!!

go to your docter and tell him everything ,its hard but iv been there ,you will be good at the job cause you have had experiance,you have to think u our better and u are,you love you family but trie to luv yourself first

i would suggest taking magic mushrooms in a small dose, with someone you love.

You would make a great nurse if you can relate to your patients, and they would be able to help you too.

Leave your job. If you need to you can collect disability benefit until you are able to work again.

Don't get into the habit of talking to your friends like there a counsellor.

Go to a church and speak to someone about jesus.

You have far to much stress in your life, you have to remove yourself from that Maybe it means you and your fiancee move away and start a whole new life together. I take a product called Stress Relief Complex that helps me when I am under alot of stress it really helps me and it is a vitamin supplement not a drug.It isn't sold in stores. If you are interested contact me.

Stress is not depression and you have a seriously stressful life. (Also people get ill when they're stressed -- so the flu is no surprise either.)

Good for you not wanting to take pills, they don't cure anything and have been black-labelled as *causing* suicidal tendencies and violence, definitely not what you need.

What you need is practical help in making your life less stressful and that's not something that's going to happen overnight, or be sorted out on this website.

So, if you want some practical help, get in touch and I'll be able to find a volunteer near you who will be able to genuinely help -- one thing at a time.

Steve

Jesus is the friend who will sort out all your troubles. Ask the angels to sing you to sleep, and they will. And I can introduce you to my best friend Jesus who cured me from Manic Depression. If you're not sure about that, then do for yourself what you would do for someone you were caring for, ie, mum, in this situation. Maybe take time out, oh yeah, get close to your mum - she may have insight for you. God Bless you today.