I want my man to go back to school like I did but he refuses to do so, it's been 4yrs should I stay or go?

I went back to school to be a nurse, my boyfriend refuses to go and get his education and I am wondering what kind of future will we have together? Will I work like a dog while he sits with the children? Will he become the house dad and get all fat and worthless? Have women in my house while I am at work? Should I leave him or accept this, because I love him?

You cant change a man, let alone " make" them do something they choose not to do . Maybe you should figure out what you want for your future, and then deal with the situation at hand. Its obvious he isnt interested in furthuring his education, so that leaves one question " why are you still with him?" You need to gather your thoughts and make a decision, if you want someone with a higher education that is well, and financially stable, LEAVE him, otherwise deal with it, and move along.

sorry dont sound like you love him because you are trying to make him be you and you are already setting him up for failure.....let him decide what he wants maybe you should ask him.....

It depends on you. You cannot force him to go back to school, so if your looking for someone with a better education, then I would suggest by telling him that's what you want for your future.

this situation is tough, its mostly on you, will you be happy while hes at home? honestly this realationship wont work if the both of dont want the same thing. talk it out with him

Um, so, if you were to be a stay at home mom do you think your husband would think you were "fat and worthless" and worry about you cheating on him?

It sounds like you want something for your boyfriend that he doesn't want for himself and pushing him is only going to push him away. He can still make good money if he has skills and is a hard worker, and just because he doesn't go to college doesn't mean he will stay home and get fat.

You aren't sounding very loving, I think you should re-read your question and think about how you'd feel if HE had posted that about YOU.

You are already doomed, because you are trying to change him and make him into what you want him to be. Accept him as is, or move on... its not fair to you or him!

Leave him. You owe it to him. He will be grateful one day. Your wanting to choose his path in life states your selfishness. Love oversees all.

is he currently working?..if so then dont get upset..............but if he is doing nothing to help him self or you then you should tell him that something needs to change and that he needs to meet you half way on this

Go! Run far far away. Like japan far. Lol.

College isn't for everybody. But if you have those thoughts then there is obviously a problem. If you have trust issues then it won't work out. Think about what kind of person he is, his character. Maybe make a list of the good and bad. Which ever one is more, there's your answer.
But if your instincts are telling you to stay then don't give up on something good. ANd vice versa. Don't fall in the hands of a bad situation. Good luck!

he can still have a decent job and not stay home. my husband works at a factory and makes almost 20.00 a hour. he pays for everything and we still have alot of spending money. if your looking for more then he is offering then i think you should let him find someone who wants him for himself not what you can get out of him.even if he stays home ,doesnt mean he would be a cheater or get fat. dont know what kind of picture you have in your head but your already thinking hes going to do these things and thats wrong.

I think you should dump him now while you're ahead.

If your man has a job and he loves you, leave him alone...you sound like a nag! Do you think you're better them him because you went back to school? Why would you leave this man if you love him..doesn't sound much like love to me!!

IF you loved him you would accept him as he is, not as the fantasy man you WANT him to be. There is nothing wrong with a man being a stay at home dad, some of them far out parent the woman they married and raise fantasic kids. Maybe that's what you're afriad of? That he would be better at the nurtering end of of things than you would. He has the right to decide HIS future, you need to get over yourself and grow up some more because you don't have a clue. I guess his choices proves that he isn't what you claim him to be...YOUR man. Obivous you don't own him.

I think you're worried about something that hasn't happened. If he doesn't want to go back to school, does that mean that he'll automatically never work in his lifetime? I doubt it. I think that he'd be willing to work hard, but it just might not be in the career that you'd like to see him in. If you truely loved him, then you would be able to see past this.

But it doesn't sound like you're worried about a lack of him making money, but more about him being unfaithful to you. If he works hard and you work hard, if you both appreciate each other and accept one another for who and what you are, then I don't see there being much of a problem in the relationship.

What you want is not what he wants. If you want a man to be a go getter and he doesn't want to then divorce is an option. If you love him dearly you wii accept him for him. I do understand you want the best quality life you can afford and do a job that's rewarding for you.