I am frustrated greatly by this situation(helping an elderly woman with her move to a nursing home)?

I am helping an elderly lady who's a good friend and a student to move to the nursing home. What gets me really worried is that he husband had passed away and she doesn't have any children. With a house to sell and stuff accumulated over that last 30 years(among which are lots of valuable antiques,furniture, etc...) in the house, she is doing almost everything by herself. Her mind is alright but at least twice in the past that she forgot that she already paid me for her lessons and other things and wanted to pay me again. And she doesn't really have very clear memories about lots of things. She has a real estate agent, and she just assumes this woman will be good and honest and oversee all the details of her move(without even signing any contract). she trusts that since the company she wants to hire for packing and moving will do a good job because they are a Big Name(United Van Lines).

I am greatly frustrated also because every single time I asked her if she had all the things that she thinks the company an the real estate agent will provide, she gets furious and refuse to talk about it. I am not sure she even remembers where some really important papers are in the house.

Almost every town has some sort of elder affairs office.

Contact them, explain the situation, and let them intervene.

You are right to be concerned.

not really sure of your question. Do you resent that you have to help? Is she still of sound mind? Could you have her appoint you as her power of attorney so you could be assured that she doesn't get screwed?

no not United Van Lines let me tell you they are horrible my husband is in the military so they moved our brand new bed room furniture no scratches or anything before they moved it. When they dropped it off it was protected by nothing but thin blankets and had chunks of wood missing out of it along with deep box cutter looking cuts. The thing was our furniture was on their truck for about a week as they were moving out other peoples furniture at the same time ours was sitting on the truck so I ended up sending in a claim and didnt get nearly what I paid for it.

She is a widow and has no children, but perhaps there are some other relatives who would be willing and able to help? You could ask her if she has nieces/nephews/cousins. It is nice that you are concerned for her welfare.

i admire your loyalty to your elderly lady friend with her move. the ultimate choice HAS to be with a family member to oversee her affairs @ this point. try as you might there's not much else you can really/legally do for her. so if you can do try find out what other family she may have, brother/sisters, other nieces/nephews etc. lots of good luck in your endeavors.