I HATE Breastfeeding moms like this?......Do you?

I absolutely hate self-righteous breastfeeding moms. I have seen several posts on here where someone is asking how to ease the weaning process because their child is over one and they are really tired of nursing them and instead of advice they get a rant about how great breastfeeding is and the benefits. Do you really think they don't know the benefits they have been doing it for a year. I did not breastfeed for lots of reasons one being I like sex and not the kind where my milk is leaking everywhere. It kind of kills the mood. Also my daughter has had one cold and a broken shoulder. She is 3 years old and is doing Kindergarten level work in her preschool. I don't think formula stunted her intelligence or IQ level. Let me know am I alone or do other people feel the same way? Do you feel pressured to breastfeed? Do you feel condemned because you didn't? I love feedback :o)

Just Joking...I hear what you are saying when you are talking weaning I am not saying it is a take it away and leave them hanging I wouldn't do that to any baby. I am not saying that breastfeeding is wrong. I am not saying that you shouldn't wean slowly what I am saying is when you are trying to wean instead of giving helpful advice why is there condemnation? Why is there advice on why you should continue. Clearly the parent is asking for advice on weaning. Slow down read the whole question. And as for you getting to my level is the crack explanation a personal experience? And CIO your right I believe in it because at one point they have to cry it out.

I am sooooo with you on this! I made such a true and righteous effort to breastfeed my son and it was okay at first. When I decided to put him on formula and I got nagged by EVERYONE!!! Including his doctor. I felt humiliated and I couldn't bear taking him back to that doctor thinking she was looking down on me everytime!

It's a personal choice for every mom and people should just leave it up to her. I don't think anyone really understands what all goes into breastfeeding? Besides swollen breasts/nipples, you're life is twisted. If you are a full time mom, what about everything else you have to do throughout the day? Wasn't it hard enough just bringing a baby into your routine, now you have to clean your breasts every 3-4 hours, sit down in a quiet calming place-if you're upset at all it's nearly IMPOSSIBLE to feed!, feed the baby from each breast evenly so that one boob isn't heavier than the other, oh did I mention the swollen breasts?

The point is, it's an individual choice for the mom to make, so every1 else needs to back off. We have so many formulas out there people, our babies are not going to starve!

PS: That bonding stuff they push is bull too! All you need is time alone with the baby while you are feeding him. You can talk to him, cuddle, sing, kiss him while holding a bottle just as easily as you can while he is sucking on a breast! Actually, it's easier!

I only breastfed for about one month and that was it. It was too much work. My kids are really smart cause honestly the formula has just as many vitamins as your own milk if not more. I don't know why so many people feel they have to breastfeed for so long it's actually kind of gross.

Can I just say I TOTALLY agree. I didnt breastfeed either of my kids and neither has ever been sick beyond the common cold. Then I hear all these people asking questions about their babies being sick, and they ARE breastfeeding. I would also like to add that my kids are also above average when it comes to their intelligence.

I am breastfeeding simply because its cheaper, and i was stupid enough to smoke during my pregnancy, so i feel it will be better for my baby, but if people don't want to breastfeed thats their choice, thats why we live in america, so we can make our own decisions. i also hate it when people try to preach about breastfeeding, but then again i hate it when people preach about anything lol/

I hate the self righteous gals as much as you or more. They make it harder sometimes. I did breastfeed both my kids, but with my older one I was guilted into doing longer. The second one, the heartbeat the doctor said I could turn into a woman again, and not a cow, I weaned and my breast feeding friends were on me like a pack of wild hyenas. I'm a single mom, for pete's sake! I like to have sex and milk coming from the boobs isn't exactly a sexual turn-on (for normal men). I just rolled my eyes and popped a bottle in my baby's mouth and they shut up. Its like the abortion issue, you can't please everyone all the time.

I agree with you, and breastfeeding over a year is completely unnecessary! My 8 year old is very intelligent. He made honors this year in school for the entire year, he can count in french and Spanish and is learning tons of both languages (English is his first language), he has never broken a bone, is completely healthy, active, and rarely gets sick. He never had an ear infection, ever...I just don't see how non-breastfeeding moms get condemned over it. We have a right to choose. And studies can show whatever they want, but I have three children, none that were breastfed, that are well above their age levels in intelligence, and coordination.

I often wonder if it's just interent breast-feeders or if these people are the same way in 'the real world.' I have never met a nursing mother who is as rude as the people on here to be honest!

I wanted to breastfeed. There were a lot of things that went wrong. I blame most of it on myself. I'm very guilty about it not because of the breastfeeding mom's on here but because of myself.

Truth is breast is best. It's not like they are rambling nonsense. I understand what you are saying though. Online they are really pushy. I have always felt that when a woman wants to stop breastfeeding [or start for that matter] is her own decision.

My son has done really well too without being breastfed. He's been sick once and I don't think his IQ is down any. LOL! Oh well, the best thing to do is ignore it. They are just self-righteous. Informing is one this but pushing your beliefs is another.

I don't hate any mother that is doing the absolute best thing for her child.

And I think formula-feeders, on the average, are highly defensive about their choice, which leads me to believe they have some level of guilt over it.

Not sure what posts you've read - so I'm not going to comment on the 'ranting, self-righteous breastfeeding moms'. But as far as the benefits of either formula or breastfeeding - I think the benefits need to be on both parties - mom and baby. If mom is pissed off cause her breasts are being used for portable milking machines and she'd prefer to use them as a sex toy instead - breastfeeding is going to produce feelings of resentment.

If mom is enjoying the breastfeeding, and dad isn't being forced to use a massage service down the road - all the much better.

My husband - so far - hasn't been turned off by the extra fluid that seems to be part of our sex life - if he was it might be a different story.

I think there are alot of people out there that think they 'know best' and they truly want to help. How the 'help' is provided, unfortunately - isn't always in the best manner.

So - I'm glad you've got a 3 year old that's healthy and happy - and you made a great choice for you. Tell the rest of the world to piss off. ;-)

The IQ thing has been de-bunked.

But, I have to say that you are very selfish to not BF in order to have good sex. Some people are not aware of the benifits. And you would rather have an orgasm than give your baby the absolute BEST food?

This milk is specifically formulated for your baby, you are supposed to give it to them!! Formula is a SUBSTITUTE!!! You wouldnt reduce her (and your) risk of cancer? allergies? obeicity? all for sex?? Your poor child, I hate you.

i didnt breastfeed my oldest 2 and they are smart as anything. my 4 yr old sits at a 6 yr old level and my 2 yr old at a 4 yr old level. I breastfed my youngest for about two weeks had to stop hurt to bad. He was latched on right and everything but it didnt fill him up neways hes so much happier on formula and go figure he got thrush while i brestfed and an ear infection but nothing since hes been on formula. makes me wonder what really is better. plus them studies are full of it all kids are different and it really depends on how you work with them not what you feed them and with the colds and stuff i was breastfed and have been sick all the time since i could remember when my siblings where bottle fed and are rarely sick. I say do what u feel you should and leave other people alone about it. Everyone wants you to breastfeed so bad Ive told them when u carry and deliver my baby then you can tell me what to do. I know exactly how you feel.

i agree with you. i have breast fed and bottle fed. i don't feel the need to "defend" myself, but some breastfeeding moms can be so rude and ignorant. how is it your buisiness what i feed my baby? my child is thriving on the bottle and hasn't been sick once. he is healthy, loved and plenty bonded with me thankyouverymuch! i understand that "breast is best" but it's really not best for everyone. give it a rest! just keep on feeding your child as you wish, and i will concern myself with my own. and for the poster that was all condescending with her stupid "crack addict" remark?i have one thing to say to you: get a life and quit concerning yourself with other's.

I am going to just assume that although your rant is regarding breastfeeding Moms, you hate all self-righteous people. I breastfed all 3 of my kids, my oldest until he was almost 3, tandum nursed 8 1/2 months, nursed my middle one until he weaned when I was pregnant with #3 at 2 1/2, and my last one weaned at 11 months (which was a shock!). Obviously, I think breastfeeding is important. That being said, I would NEVER make a woman feel guilty about not breastfeeding or wanting to wean at any point. So, please don't think that all of us breast feeding moms are self-righteous (which I know wasn't your point).

On the other side, I got hassled a lot by women who formula fed or breastfed only 6 months or a year who thought it was awful that I was still nursing my 2 1/2 year old while nursing my infant. I can say my kids (now 6, 4 and 14 months) are happy, healthy, well-adjusted, smart kids and I don't regret for a minute my decision to continue nursing.

Everyone will make decisions for their children, and almost every person I know wants only the best for the child. If formula feeding is what fits your lifestyle, then fine. If you want to wean after a month, fine. If you want to give your child a pacifier, have them sleep with you, put them in cloth diapers, whatever, it is your choice. Whatever it may be, the important thing is that your child knows how much you love them.

Anyway, sorry for this little rant! I didn't mean to hijack your post.

i breastfed one of my daughter's for 13months but you would not believe the amount of people who were the complete opposite to what your saying. i felt pressured to give up breastfeeding!
people where so shocked when they found out that i was still breast feeding and didnt understand it , some also tried to tell me i should stop. not many people are very open to it, i dont understand why.
apparently breastfeeding here in australia isn't cool...
But 'each to their own' i say.

everyone has different reasons for and against it but its still a personal choice. ... and to add to that, i dont like people forcing their choice on others, no matter what the subject!
but after sticking it out for 13months, i feel very proud i did it and im glad i didnt give in to others and stop.

First of all, not every woman leaks milk during sex. I never have.

Second of all, breastfeeding takes a lot of time and effort for the first several months, but-generally-by 4 months it's FAR easier, faster, and safer (no risk of "spoilage" or contamination) than bottlefeeding.

Third of all, breastfeeding does still provide benefits after 12 months of age. There is a point to nursing past 12 months...it's not pointless as a previous poster stated.

And finally, to quote my two year olds favorite shirt...."Breastmilk: It's a Birthright, NOT a Choice!"

When I was pregnant, pretty much everyone asked if I was planning to breastfeed, and when I told them that I was, they were all "Good for you, it's the best thing you can do for your baby", etc. After my daughter was born, she had a great latch-on, and I thought that breastfeeding would be a breeze. Then I got an infection that knocked me out completely, and the nurses gave her a bottle. After that she wouldn't latch on at all, and I ended up pumping, so she'd get the breastmilk. But even with all the water I drank and staying on a good diet, my supply barely lasted a month, so now she's a formula baby (she's 2 and a half months, in case anyone was wondering). When my friends/family found out why, they were still really supportive. I haven't come in contact with any of the self-righteous breastfeeding moms, though. I really did want to breastfeed my little girl, because it's cheaper than buying formula, and when you're on a budget, it really helps to save, you know? As for the IQ thing, my baby is doing really well with the little things, so I'm pretty sure the formula won't make her stupid, lol. In the end, though, it's not what you feed your baby that makes you a better mom. By providing food, a home, and a whole lot of love, you're the best mom your baby could ever have.

Breast feeding moms call formula feeding moms less intelligent , selfish , lazy , poverty-ridden , immature and now I can add guilty to the list....I say they are pompous , arrogant , rude , close-minded , cheap , boring and did I mention pompous? There I let it out , lol...I'm exaggerating , but that what it always seems to end in...so now I said it all , it's out of my system.

I didn't choose to breastfeed because of my schedule , however , the fact that I could drink a few glasses of wine on the weekend , smoke a cigarette when I need to , eat garlic and hot sauce daily , wear a turtleneck when weather calls for it , take medication , and yes , have great clean sex had a little something to do with my decision. Call me what you will...but at least I'm having fun!

I breast-fed for 3 months. At 6 weeks I introduced the bottle to him and it didn't take him long to figure out that it came out quicker that way. So he slowly refused the breast and it dried up. I am sad at times I still miss it, (he is 5 months now.) It is a bond that is unbelievable! So of course he is now formula fed but I am fine with that also. He is still healthy and will grow fine. Most of the mother's on here were formula fed (I know I was). And my 8 year was formula fed. So it's really not as bad as they make it seem. Although breastfeeding was much cheaper and more convenient! I say to each there own and do what works for baby and YOU!

I breastfeed for about a year. I dont' understand people that don't breastfeed. To me it is natural and the only thing that makes sense. However, being an adult, I know that not everyone shares my point of view. I also am aware that because I dont' understand something, that does not make me better or them wrong. Life is perspective. I may not understand why you do what you do, but that doesn't make you wrong or me wrong. It makes us individuals

The way i see it, is breast or bottle feeding is a personal choice. Do whatever fits your lifestyle the best!
I breast feed because I don't like having to spend over 100 a month on formula and i want my children to receive the benefits that breast milk can impart. My daughter was both breast and bottle fed and i want to breast feed my son exclusively.
Its just another parenting decision we have to make!

I couldn't breastfeed because the pain from my breasts being full of fibroids was excruciating when they had milk - far worse than the pain of natural childbirth I had with both babies. I would rather experience days of hard labor than one minute of my breasts hurting that bad ever again! I did feel like certain people wanted to pressure me into it, but I'm the "haha, screw you!" type, so I didn't let it bother me. I'm sure they were condemning me in ther minds, but I'm also sure they would DIE from the pain I experienced. I have a really high tolerance for pain, I've even been told so by doctors in other situations, but that was just too much when the swollen milk ducts compressed the fibroids.

As for the benefits of breastfeeding, I have a cousin who breastfed one of her kids and not the other. They are both in college now. The breastfed kid has asthma, terrible allergies, and has been sick a lot over the years. The formula fed kid has never been sick a day in her life.

I completely agree, I stopped with all three of my kids anywhere between 1mo to 4mos, they are all healthy and inteligent

I absolutely hear you on this one. I have a question for all those self-righteous breastfeeding moms.. #1 Do you vaccinate your child? #2 Do you give your child medicine when they are sick? I mean really formula was created to help us provide for our children the best way possible..back in time some women who couldn't produce enough milk or were ill had no alternative if they couldn't find a wet nurse and well what would have become of their baby's ..well I think everyone needs to stop being so judgemental of other's & just be happy with yourself. Go brag about your accomplishments to your husband or friends because nobody here really cares. STFU!

all i have to say is YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!!
i was just going to post something like this right now. i know exactly what you are saying and feel pretty much the same why you do. you totally nailed it in this post. i love my son to death but i just couldnt nurse it hurt and your so right about the sex thing. its so not sexy

I have a 7 month old and she is on breast milk but from a bottle (She can鈥檛 tolerate formula ). I tried for 2.5 month to breastfeed but it did not work out because she had a latch on problem that we could not fix no matter how much we tried. I even had a LLL come in and it did no good whatsoever. It got so bad that I had to syringe feed her at 2.5 because she was fed up with the breast but did not know how to suck from the bottle. I have been pumping 3-4 times a day for 20 minutes each time for almost five month. My nipples have been cracked, sore, blistered and bleed a dozen times. So I鈥檓 kinda breastfeeding but not really, and have my baby on the bottle but not really either. Once in a while I would ask a question about pumping or bottles and always got someone that would attack me for giving my baby the bottle. I don鈥檛 provide the details of my situation in the questions and it really drives me crazy that from just a few words some one would judge you so badly and make you out the worst person in the world just because your baby does not suck on the breast. Every person has their story and it鈥檚 just wrong to just come out and judge them like that. You have no idea what type of comments I got when I asked what formula was best because I could not handle pumping anymore, out of 5oz of milk 1oz was blood. I think that breastfeeding is the easiest (once you manage it) and best thing in the world. No pouring, heating, scrubbing the bottle or worrying whether or not the food is spoiled or getting upset when the baby does not want to eat and you have to throw out 2-3oz. But it is not meant for every one. If you can do it great for you, if you don鈥檛 then you don't. I think it is more important that the baby is well taken care off than whether or not they get their food from the breast or the bottle

Okay, as a "milk-machine" (or, "milk truck, as my husband refers to it) I can tell you that no mom wants another to feel bad.

It is just easier online to come off that way!

After going through 16 months of nursing a learning about all I can about the proccess and about why formula disrupts that process, yes, i am against formula.

I will finish this later... To be continued!

You're ranting about breastfeeding moms being self-righteous because you werent a breastfeeding mom yourself. If you had been, you'd see the non breastfeeders give as much if not more crap than those who are! Obviously I was a breastfeeder (13mths) and I had amazing amts of crap thrown at me for it the entire time. This is one of those topics you sort of have to make taboo for those who can't respect your choice. I had my family making all sorts of snide comments, I've stopped talking to some of them because it was so hurtful. For a lot of people nowadays breastfeeding is somehow dirty when it isnt at all. It does create a bond between you and your child, at least for me it did.

There are tons of postings on here about 'I hate breastfeeding moms' and I'm happy you've at least clarified your position a little by saying the ones who are trying to preach to the choir are the ones who annoy you. I hate when people lump all breastfeeders as 'breastfeeding nazis' or whatever label they've come up with. It's degrading, and unfair. When people list something like leaking nipples while having sex as the main reason for not breastfeeding, then I can see why those of us who understand the benefits of breastfeeding shake our heads because that doesnt seem to even tilt the scales in favor of giving formula. To each his own though.

There are a number of people saying their child isnt any dumber for being given formula - recent research shows breastmilk doesnt increase IQ levels, it just happens that the majority of women who breastfeed are more educated/intelligent and thus this leads to 'smarter' children. It seems most people haven't heard this yet.

A lot of people rant and rave on this website, it's some sort of release for them to do it. They probably never would in person, but the anonymity gives them the nerve to do it. I like answering breastfeeding ?'s on here because it was pretty difficult for me in the beginning and I really would have liked help but I didnt have someone near me to ask ?'s of. I asked a breastfeeding ? on here awhile back, in regards to my nursing 12mth old, and you know what I got back? Lot's of people saying how disgusting it was, how breastfeeding is only for newborns (say 3mths and younger), how formula is just as good, etc etc. We all deal with this, self-righteous people giving 'advice' that was never asked of them. Not just formula feeders.

I think any post that attempts to force an action or belief system on someone else is obnoxious. The militant breastfeeders are on that list!!

I think the worst ones are those that answer a question about formula with a rant about the benefits of breastfeeding. Well, DUH.... the decision has already been made. Keep your mouth shut... it's NONE of your business...

I agree. I'm fond of people that hold themselves higher than others for any reason...

But at the same time... I'm really confused about this sex thing. This is in no way a jab at anyone, seeing as how this is the Internet and I know none of you or your situations in life. But not breastfeeding because you want to have sex is very confusing to me. I'm a first timer, baby's due in Sep., and I do plan to breastfeed, unless for some reason I can't. But I'm also under the impression that you put your baby before yourself. Before your boobs. Before sex, ect...

So while that idea completely boggles my mind. I support your right to choose, after all you know what's best for your baby.

Your statement sounds like something a cruel person would say for the benefit of an un-natural product sell in the days market place. if your language would have come to my door well lets just say your story would be front page news...

This is why GOD gave us milk, to feed our children. Why, as humans, we would rather give our children imitation milk as well as animal milk, when we are equipped with the stuff already?? It is more nutritious and has been known to give the children a natural, not artificially nourished immune system. This is childbirth on GODS terms, not ours. We as women and humans, want to make everything more convenient. If we did not want to have the responsibility of childbearing, we should have thought about this before we became pregnant.