Am I wrong for wanting my husband not to go out and work?

He has been staying home for a year. I want him home, cooking and cleaning and taking care of the kids. He is itching to go back to work but I am a nurse by profession and make sufficient money. Am I wrong for wanting him to stay home? I know if the the situation were reversed I would not want to stay home. It's just nice having one of us stay home.

Nice twist on the age old argument....

As a couple, you need to decide - together - what works best for all members of the family. One person cannot and should not decide the life path for another - male or female. When there are children involved, the discussion has to place them as the top priority, and work down from there...

You are SOOOO Unfair! It's not just about the money you know. He needs to feel good about what he does and that will benefit you in the long run.

It is not wrong for wanting your husband to stay at home, but it is wrong to pressure (make) him to stay home if he do not want to. In a marraige you have to support each other's decisions whether or not you like it.

Be supportive and why don't you stay at home rather?

Its nice that u want him home and make enough money, but your kids need u too... and it would be a good idea to devide time over responsibilities at home. Let him go to work before the Devil takes over...

Whilst I see the convenience of it all, being a full time house parent can be very tedious & frustruating work which is often under valued. I can see why he wants to get back to work.. Working is not just about making the bucks, it's associated with a valued identity and serves as social interaction. Maybe you and your hubby can both work part time and share the house keeping & parenting between you.

That is really unfair. Until you stay home and do all that stuff you really don't know how it can be.
If he wants to work he should be able to.

You are choosing for him and that is wrong. It is not wrong for you to want him to stay at home if thats what he wants. It is also fabulous that all the work gets done- its great. But if he does want to pursue other interests both of you will have to find alternative arrangements. Short of that you will have to compromise in situations when you want something and he doesnt- then you will have to compromise your right of choice. Remember what goes around -comes around

If the situation were reversed everyone would be telling your husband he was wrong for FORCING you to stay home......which is what you will be doing to him if you don't gain an ounce of respect for him.

I suggest you take the shackles off and quit treating him like a child and dictating his life, support his wants and desires, find a quality (key word quality) child care facility or talk to family members about caring for your children, and start doing your share of the house work.

You are not wrong for *wanting* him to stay home, but if you try to force him to stay home or make him feel guilty for not staying home, that would be wrong.

It would be great if your husband enjoyed staying home because then you'd both be in agreement. But since he doesn't want to, let him go back to work. He doesn't seem to be happy.

its your turn now.I guess.give him a break

You are wrong to prevent him from doing things that fullfil him and make him happy. You should support his ambition for a carreer.

Oh come on, if you're not a troll, then you're wrong to force your spouse to stay home when he wants to get a job.

correction: I misread your post. It's fine to want him to stay home, but you shouldn't guilt him into it.

You are a woman and you are wrong; always.

Want as you please, but the decision should ultimately be left to your husband. If you love each other, you can set up a plan to ensure that the kids are taken care of sufficiently.

No, you are definitely NOT wrong.
One of the parents should be home for the children.
Your husband is the selfish one.