I cannot believe I am asking this. Is my Mom cheating on my Dad?

Oh man. If someone could truly help me on this one, I'd be truly greatful, I'd do anything.

Before I tell you the story you need some backup info:

eric shuck is a doctor [pediatrician] my mom used to work for-my mom is a nurse. Alot of people know that Dr. Shuck beats his wives...he has had like 3 wives by the way, and I think 8 children, all of them young. About a year ago, he was having bad financial problems and had to close down his little Pediatric dr.'s office thing, and he didnt tell any of the patients or any of the nurses but my mom. So my Mom quit before he told the public........................My mom has no business to deal w/ with this man anymore!

But about an hour ago I looked thru her txts from him to her and vise versa. The one to my mom said "Ive been trying not to think about u but I cant help it...I hav to admit I think about you when I uh...you know......" after I read that, I flipped. read on pleeeaassse. I will b so loyal to you.

then I found a txt from him that came a day aftr that that said: "this is stacy [shuck's current wife] hmm I wonder what it is you talk about...I read eric's txts to and from you....mayb you were screwing around and thats why you quit your job...as you can guess he has no clu Im readin these messages...It better stop!" the one immediatly aftr that from him says "stacy found txts from yesterday...she's pissed"


My Mom wrote back: "oh no, she didnt read anythin she wasnt supposed to, did she?"

And the convo pretty much stops there. I hope you understand what Ive told you and you give me your input..........is my mother cheating? I cant even look/talk to her anymore. I dont see her the same.

I'm sorry honey but it definitely seems like your mom is cheating on your dad...and that's a shame because you don't need to know about these things and you shouldn't have found out the way you did..that was very irresponsible of your mom to not only do what she did but to leave evidence for you to find...I'm sorry you're going through this but just confront your mom...not in an angry way but let her know you are really hurt and explain all your concerns and feelings...then urge her to take this up with your dad...just know this may lead to divorce hon...so sorry but this is reality..and sometimes...growups do stupid things too....all the best.......

Yeah, probably.

god........
that isnt the thing you ask on yahoo answers
its the thing you tell counselors

i dont know

Sure sound's like it to me. Those are pretty incriminating text messages.

think so ask her outriight

i actually didn't read your question sorry. (too long) but what i do want to say is this


i'm a 23 year old guy, and i found out half a year ago that my dad sometimes gets together with my uncles and they go get prostitutes. wtf i know.

strangely enough, i was upset only for a little bit. good luck

oooooooooo shes getting her freak on. and thats ****** id talk to her

You really shouldn't be going through your mothers texts or any of her other personal stuff. You never know what kind of relationship your mother and father have. For all you know they could have an open marriage. I think you should do yourself a favor and stay out of it.

It appears that way....

Um, why are you going through your Mom's text messages again?

That is her property.


And its not always good to assume things..you could be wrong but given the details it is unlikely.

oh no
it really seems like it
im sorry

sounds pretty much like she is.

yes i am sorry to say sure looks that way. its very bad and i dont' know what to tell you. but the thing is she'll be next being beat up how sad and i dont' know what to tell you it will just end in disaster. take care.

nah she aint cheating. btw the txts dnt sounds really umm you know realistic. why would someone bother to write such a long txt. they'd rather call.

Maybe. I mean...wow. Maybe it would be good to talk to your mom about it. I mean I know its invading her privacy....but I wouldnt want anything to ruin your parents relationships. Talk to your mom, try to stop it if she is, and things could be okay...I hope things are okay...Did your mom write anything inappropriate back...?

Sounds quite suspicious to me!

Sounds to me like they were playing doctor once upon a time.Something may still be going on.

Ask Mom to go out to lunch and tell her you have been snooping and have read her texts. Tell her how you feel and then try to salvage the relationship. Do you spy on your Father too? This is like eavesdropping, if you don't want to hear it then don't listen.

it sounds like it.
but you should really warn her that he beats his wives.
because she is digging herself into a HUGE hole that some people take forever to get out of.
just make sure she knows shes not safe.

With seeing what you said the the text messages were, either she has or was about to.
I know it is hard to think of your parents being unfaithful to each other, I understand I was in the same boat when I found out about my parents, but I was 18 years old when I did. It hurts, you have to be up front and ask your mom, and if you have to let your dad know.

It does sound like there is something going on, if it is cheating or just talking about it is hard to say,

It is between your Mom and your Dad.
You should not be snooping in your parents things.

Since you already pretty much have an idea that your Mom is probably cheating, you have 2 options...

1) Ask her about it!

2) Forget about it!

My opinio is your mother is cheating. What else could that you know thing be... Sorry but there is definetely something wrong going on here. Se might just be curious or there is a slight possibility that its something; but thats doubtful.

yup, shes cheating on your dad. You need to sit down and talk to her and ask her bluntly. Let her know what you read and see what she says to that. You should also suggest she divorce your father if she is not happy in the relationship. If she continues....you need to let your dad know whats going on. Good luck.

If I was your mom and something wasn't going on then I would be freaked out by the "I have to admit I think about you when I uh...you know......" txt and not speak to him anymore.

Go talk to a trusted adult like your minister or someone you can feel safe with.

well you never know the conversation can be about something else ppl often mistake things for wat there not! Or the doctors wife just might be jealous and think that something is going on even though it might now be! but if its really bothering you i strongly advise you to talk to your mom about it well hope you liked my advice laters

I think you know your Mom is doing something she should not be doing but..... before this starts to effect your mother and yours relationship you really really really need to sit her down and tell her what you know and let her explain as best she can or will. her decisions are hers as a adult and you should not have been in her texts but now you have to deal with this and since you don't want to end up with bad feelings between the two of you, its time to tell her. good luck and expect her to be mad because she won't like the fact that you know this about her.

well I would say its most likley she is cheating.

It sounds like it. It sounds like they were messing around. I know how you feel. My mom cheated on my dad as well, when I was a child. I'm sorry you are in the middle of this. This is my advice to you... Ignore it. Block it out. Don't read her texts anymore. NEVER EVER mention it to her or ANYONE else. People...adults...have complex needs. Chances are, she wasn't totally satisfied somehow...and did something wrong. It's not your problem. And it isn't your dad's unless you say something. Your mom is a flawed human being as most people are. Don't get involved and chances are it will go away. Keep living your life and worry about YOUR problems...school, friendships, etc....ok?

sounds like it, but dont asume the worse, even though it may be, ask her whats going on, you and ur dad deserve the truth