Did you have your hubby or will you have him...?

in the room with you watching you deliver your baby? With my first child I only had the doctor and nurse in the room. I know a lot of women will have their hubby in there or possibly several family members. I just think this is such a private matter. Ladies, what are your opinions??

My husband is in the military, but as long as he isn't out of town on training he will definitely be there when our daughter is born. I can't imagine going through labor with him in the hallway. He probably won't watch the actual birth and he already said he doesn't want to cut the cord, but we both want him to be there.

That being said, I don't want anyone else there, not even my mom. I feel like that's a moment that should be shared between just the two of us.

hubby should be there

He would be hurt if wasnt there. I would be a mess with out him. Will prob have my mom in there too...who knows.

I am having my husband and only my husband. He is responsible for getting me into this so he can be there when I go through the pain of labor. Good for men to see what women go throught.

I had my husband in with all 3 of my babies. He didnt watch the baby come out. He sat at the head of my bed helping me breath and holding my hand....

I ended up having to have an emergency c-section and my husband was there, we were both scared but I think the husband should be there to share the experience, he helped make the baby so he should be there to see it be born.

This is an event that can never be redone. It can let your husband see what you and your body goes thru to give him a child. It is a very emotional event that can bond you two in ways that nothing else will. I would not want to be without my husband there by my side, holding my hand...or my leg.....LOL

He is welcome if he wants to come. He has said he is not sure how he will handle it if I have a c-section. He isn't exactly blood shy he just doesn't like to see me or anyone he cares about in pain and he really hate hospitals, so we will see. If he doesn't want to come in, my mom or my sister will probably be there.

Ummmm...YES!!! It isn't just your child. It is his too. I had a very bad 1st birth and had to be put under general anesthesia. My husband could be there and I wasn't conscious. It was horrible! The second c-section he was there and wouldn't have stayed out for anything!! I had my husband there with me through everything.

my fiancee will be in there until he starts freaking out which he will inevitably do, then he can leave if he so chooses.

I think the only people that should be there are the people that made the baby. The husband and the wife. No doctors, no midwifes, no nurses. The only exception is possibly the other children of that couple.

i want my husband because there is so little of this he can experience up to that point. on the other hand, i'm a big wuss when he's around so i'd probaby do a lot better withOUT him making me feel like its okay to act like a big blubbering baby! he brings that out in me, idk, lol! as far as other family - NO WAY!!!!!! I definitely draw the line there! and no videotaping either!

Yes it's a private matter, but he's your husband and the father, right? I mean, he was there when the baby was conceived, I'm sure....and that's a private matter too.

How does he feel about it?

When I get pregnant and give birth I think I would want my hubby to be there. I would hope that he would want to be there as well. You need him there for support and help and to show him the pain he has caused you!

Hubby has see a lot of me more so then anyone else. Also he should know what it's like to see the woman he loves give birth. Don't want him thinking the horror stories are in any shape or form exaggerated. Plus I wanted him there so he could follow them around when they were cleaning up the baby. Didn't want him getting switched with another one.

My husband was there for all 4 deliveries. I couldnt imagine giving birth WITHOUT him there. Hes my best friend and my biggest support system. Him being there helped me stay calm. He helped keep my mind off the pain.
I DO think its a private matter and I would never allow anyone aside from my husband and medical staff in my room. I would never be comfortable with a whole bunch of family members in there.

I definitley have my husband in the room with me the whole time. I have had 3 babys and are expecting another next month. I have to have him their to support me and help me.He's very loving and makes me feel much better. I dont want to be alone with strangers.

C-sections with both my kids. Hubby was there for both. The second time he actually stood up and looked over the curtain and watched the whole surgery.

hubby was there, I was there with my sisters thank god I was because the second time i went with one sister the doctor didn't make it in time and YES I delivered the baby. The nurse told em what to do. Three days later I called my sister crying I delivered a baby. She was like yeah I know i was there LOL

My hubby& mother were with me when all 3 of my children were born. It is so amazing...my husband won't even consider NOT being there. I was in with a friend when see delivered (after my 3) It just cannot be described.

I think you would be doing you husband a dis-service if he was not a part of your childs birth!
Besides he was therewhen it was made ;)

my son's father and my mom were there in the room with me when i had my son and i threw everyone else out.

this time around i plan on my fiance, my mom and grandma being in there.

Yes of course my husband was in there for my first and will be for this one. He is as much a part of the process as you. Not involving him is wrong. I also had his 3 sisters in there. I was in so much pain I would not have cared if the pope was in there.

I wouldn't want to go through it without him! He's my rock!! And, my best friend. It goes without saying he's my children's father. Of course he was there and he'll be there this time around!

He was so nervous about it too. But, he really loved the whole experience. Even now he gets teary eyed when he talks about it. He's such a great man and this made him even greater...and really bonded us.

Yes, it's a private matter.

Which is why being in a hospital with strangers would suck, but being at home _with the person who helped put the baby in there_, so to speak, is ideal.

I had my husband, my mother, and my Aunt and best friend were supposed to be there. It is a private matter...but one I wanted to share...there are so many strangers in there with you...what's a few non-strangers. Hubby was a little freaked...saw the head crown and hid at the head of the bed. MY mother loved it....she was there in case hubby had to leave...he doesn't do well with hospitals..and in case I had to have a c-section and he was too freaked to be there my mom was going to step in for him. My aunt and girlfriend didn't make it in time. Its one of lifes most amazing moments that some people want to share with others. I really didn't know they were there at the time...but I'm glad that they were for support.

Hmmm...my guy will be in the room with me, however, he will be up by my face. I have no intention on looking down there and actually want a sheet, therefore my husband will not look down there. My hubby and I enjoy having sex, and I just think it will ruin his picture of me down there!!!!

My husband was present during the entire labour and birth of our first child. At first, he wasn't sure if he would be able to handle the "view", but he saw my son come out, and he told me that it was the most amazing thing he had ever seen. He will be there again for the birth of our second child this summer.

It's private, true, but why not have your hubby in there if it's his child too?

I think it's very private, too. I had my bf in with me, being the father, and also my mom. I felt closer to my mom during my pregnancy, and since she's been through it she was a great help. She was actually much more helpful and comforting and proud and excited than my bf! I'm so glad I had her there. But anyone else, forget it! Families were not invited in there! No how, no way.