Why are people still having babies and they are H.I.V positive?Please read.?

I am a nurse and this is a touchy situation for me.I just had surgery so I'm on light duty for now so I have been doing private duty at hospitals.The hospital I was at today had alot of women H.I.V positive,and knew it b4 they concieved.And I ask them why would they do this and some of them got pissed with me some called me stuck up.I meant no harm,and I asked nicely.Why would they pass this down.Some of them told me they wre lonely,you would'nt believe the responses they gave me.Was I wrong for this?

I agree! I work in the medical field as well, and there have been a few mom's who have been HIV positive for nearly 20 years and have just recently had their baby about 1 year ago.

I don't have the nerve to ask them why they went ahead and had sexual relations, when they knew what the risks were if they became pregnant.

My theory? They just don't care.

Ignorance and government assistance!!

No. They are wrong. I think there should be a law against this. As in child endangerment.

You should not be asking them these questions. It's not your business. You need to treat the patient as best you can without making judgments.

I don't mean that these people should not be educated, but this is not the time. They need non-judgmental education on how not to pass HIV on to their babies. Proper pre-natal care can minimize the risks of exposure, and so can proper care of their baby after birth.

Isnt their a chance that even if u are HIV+ u wont pass it on to urr kid

im really not sure they have a reason lets just pray for the babys

I feel sorry for people with HIV, but it's incredibly selfish for them to go ahead and give it to others, especially an innocent baby. I guess they just don't realize how cruel and senseless they are being.

No you are just curious, but I mean some people who are HIV Positive do still want children and some might be hoping that a cure is near. Also the pregnancies may not have been intentional in all cases.

I think most are just hoping a cure is near and want children of their own and adopting is not only near impossible for someone with an HIV status but not enough for some people as having their own child.

you werent wrong to ask, but maybe wrong if you expected them to have compassion for you asking them "why would they do this" .
do you want to help them with resources to assit them (the descion has been made the babies are there) or do you want them to explain their choices to you?
i dont understand why people with herpes still have sex but hell i wont ask em that!

Because really, everyone has the right to reproduce. Personal feelings aside, you shouldn't have asked them that. I'm sure they know the risks, and obviously they didn't care- it's not your place as their nurse to second guess them. You're there to help them thru this.

There are several drugs out there in today's world, that prevent the fetus from contracting HIV from it's mother. It's really not all that unusual any longer. I don't know that I would do so, but I would imagine if a doctor told me that it was safe I could be swayed to make the decision.

PURE IDIOTS,THEY"LL PAY HARD<NOTHING COULD BE WORSE THAN WATCHING YOUR CHILD DIE FROM SUCH A DISEASE AND KNOW YOU COULD HAVE PREVENTED IT ???UNBELIEVABLE

I agree with "Optimistic" . There should be a law.

I disagree with "Becca"....Yes it is her business. It is all of our business. Maybe with someone asking the ignorant...it will make them relalize their wrong doing to the child and not have another.

Remember the saying....."It takes a village to raise a child".

It takes the same 'village' to save the child.

not morally wrong, no. But professionally, it might not be productive.

I mean, its too late now, number one. Also, you could use the same reasoning to scold lung cancer patients for smoking or heart patients for being obese. Its too late, they made poor choices, the damage is done, and now there is a problem. Thats why most people are there at the hospital.

I would wager the pregnancies weren't 100% planned, just a result of unprotected sex (same as the HIV).

Is it thoughtless? yes. Irresponsible? definitely. But is it your place to go scold everybody?

your job as a nurse is to educate people, if they ask for or need it. But it seems like chastising someone after the fact is counterproductive. It will cause the patients to get angry with you, and once they are angry the communication will break down and it will be harder to work with them from there on. Also, if they complain to your superiors or the hospital it might cause problems for you.

I would be like you, and curious why they did it. I am almost positive it was just that they kept having unprotected sex with no thought whatsoever about the consequences of their actions.

I get just as angry about women who do drugs while pregnant. Believe it or not, I asked one girl why she did cocaine while pregnant. Her response was, she did it with all her other kids and they turned out FINE.
Talk to the hand.

You just can't reason with people .THey know when they do wrong, but they will just be bitter when you confront them about it.

I am not HIV positive but if I were asked this question yes I would be infuriated! I have delivered two healthy babies before and I felt judged by half the nurses that took care of me. I cant imagine having a disease that many people feel shameful about and being judged. Yes I would be mad. I am a funeral director, and half the time I dont know how the deceased that I am taking care of died until we get the death certificate, what you did would be the equivalent of me asking the grieving husband AND HOW DID YOUR WIFE DIE?

It is called attempted murder if one partner knowingly has sex with someone if they knew they were HIV+ and don't tell the other person.Murder if the person dies from the HIV.

So why isn't it attempted murder when a woman who is HIV+ conceives a child and gives birth to the child?