My husband and I are going to start trying to conceive soon, but I am scared to death?

I am so scared; about the labor/delivery process, and about doing all the right things when our baby is home. I鈥檓 a private person, and the thought of a bunch of doctors and nurses and family staring into my private areas while I squeeze a baby out makes me get all shaky and I break out into a cold sweat. Is it normal to be scared, even before I conceive? I really want a baby, but everything seems so overwhelming. I guess I just need some comfort from ladies who have gone through this. I have a tendency to over think things and I really drive myself crazy!!

Haha! No Blaine, we鈥檝e been married for a few years now鈥e have an active sex life. We can finally afford for me not to work, so we鈥檙e ready to build our family.

Though it's been quite a few years since delivering my last child, I do remember it very well. I too felt weird having a doctor look at me every month, checking on the progress of my pregnancy. And in the last month, it was every week! By then, I was so used to being looked at, poked, prodded and exposed, I really didn't mind. And, once the delivery came, all I was concerned with was delivering a healthy baby as quickly & safely as possible. You get so focused on your baby, you don't think about who's looking. Who cares?! My first delievery was hard...about 26 hours. I delivered a 10 pound baby boy. Yes, it hurt. But it's only temporary. Everything is temporary. You baby will grow up, and next thing you know, moving out. Time flies. Yes, it's very normal to be scared, worried, aprehensive and concerned about everything. You'll worry about bearing the pain (you will), about dropping the baby (you won't), about drowing the baby during his bath (you won't), about not knowing when to tell what kind of cry your baby is making (you'll figure it out), about his illnesses (you'll learn your doctor's number), and about a thousand different things. You'll get through it, like every other mom. Hey, did you forget? You have a husband. He figures into this too. Husbands can be very powerful in helping you through your uncertain times. You already have something that a lot of women don't have when planning a family...a husband. Many women do this alone. Surround yourself with lots of positive people. Yes, you'll hear scary stories about 48 hour marathon labor pains, stitches that look like a railroad crossing, and difficult births. Those are rare. Every woman is different. My second pregnancy was nothing like the first, except for the 4 1/2 months of morning sickness (which varies from woman to woman, some not even getting it). I spotted in my 5th month and the doctor had me lay down for a couple of days & all was well afterwards. I delivered an 8 pound 9 ounce girl, with about 8 hours of labor. It was so easy, I remember telling my husband we could do that again! Relax, little one, you'll do fine. Once you know you're pregnant, start working on the nursery, decorating and buying stuff for the baby. That will help you to look forward to even the most unpleasant things associated with the painful & embarassing side of pregnancy & delivery. Go to childbirth classes too, so that they'll show you some things you might expect. They'll give you a tour of the rooms you'll be in and make you relax about the whole process. Have a great life. <*)))><

Thank you for picking my answer out of all these wonderful entries. You'll do just fine. Have a great day...and a great life. <*)))>< Report It

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I agree with blaine h, yeah, it sounds like it, because why would you get goosebumps? Or break into a cold sweat unless you didn't have the experience of either one. Report It

don't worry and don't be scared. Report It

Are you more scared to have sex or to have the baby and besides don not fret over stuff way ahead in the future sex will come first and you'll love that then you don't even know if you'll get pregnant

that's freakin hilarious. when you're in labor and trying to push a baby out your privates YOU DON'T CARE WHO'S LOOKIN YOU JUST WANT IT OUT! seriously! or consider going to a midwife. that may be a lil less stressful than going to a busy hospital.

I am 39 wks pregnant and im scared to.Just remember that all the pain and embarrasing stuff will be all worth it once you seethe life you both created.Im going thruogh it alone so your lucky to have support.Good luck

Labor feels like a BAD period and you have a stomach virus at the same time. Like you have to go to the bathroom feeling. It's like major cramps... And when you are having a baby the last thing you are thinking about is someone looking at you!!!
It doesn't look normal anyways so it doesn't matter. There is a head half way out. LOL Those people that work at hospitals have seen it all.. So don't worry that they will look at you!

Having a baby is a wonderful thing and it is worth every moment of the labor. You'll be so happy about the baby nothing else will matter.

Everyone thinks the same things you are thinking right now. I was so nervous when I went in labor and afterward mad b/c all the things people had told me didn't happen and the pain isn't THAT BAD! If you have lived thur a cold day with major cramps and the flu all at once you can have a baby.
Good Luck
Don't be nervous!!

Its okay to be scare about things that you have never experienced before. I want to be a doctor, and before deciding this I was scared to go to the gynecologist because I was embarrassed, but you dont have to feel that way because its normal. Its not like the doctors have never seen a persons thing before. So just dont worry about the doctors and enjoy the whole process.Relax and dont think about it too much.

I was the same way. I was worried about all of the same things you are. Now I have two wonderful sons. I could tell you a lot of things to ease your mind, but I would suggest that you go to a great web site where there is a community board where people talk about all kinds of stuff having to do with every subject from conception to parenting. I hope it helps.

I had my kids natural and will not say it didn't hurt. I never even cried or screamed, just stayed focused on the precious gift GOD allowed me to have and hold once delivered.
Yes, it,s very normal to be scared, infact I was with second too. Everyone dreads the pain they've heard about, but remember not all peoples pain tolerence is the same. And of course you can get a epidural.
I too am a private person, but believe me while your in labor I PROMISE you will not care or think about whos doing what or looking.
Just focus on this important fact. YOU will be giving birth to a child that YOU chose to have because you LOVE your husband.
You will be fine when the baby comes home. Taking care of it just sorta comes natural for a mom. I know refraize that--- if you listen to the needs of your child. But hey your already looking for answers so you'll do fine
P.S.---stress, worring etc. could play a roll in it taking you longer to get preg.
lots of luck and GOD BLESS

It can be totally normal to be afraid of what you do not know yet. With my first I had moments of sheer terror, and moments of pure joy. Birthing was hard (I did not take any medications for pain). It did suck, and it was painful but so worth it. That's why I'm going through it again in a couple weeks with my 2nd! You forget the pain and all the embarrassing moments!

I have a few from my first but the one I talk about the most was when I was in labor and birthing my son I actually looked at everyone in the room who was then looking at my son being born. I was totally shy about it and maybe alittle embarrassed. No one was paying attention to me anymore once his head started to come though. I actually cried and said "Can some of you please stop looking at my crotch!" My mother who was in the room with me just got this big grin on her face and said "Ok, sweetie" and rubbed my face to calm me. Laugh. We laugh about it now because that's what happens when a babe is born. People want to see it all and they are not paying attention to your body parts. They are looking at the beautiful babe that is about to come into the world. It's an amazing thing.

I'm hoping I do not have another breakdown like that during this one though. Laugh!