When Your Parents Get Old Would you take them in?

my moms worked as a private duty nurse and heard some terrible stories. she takes care of a man who bought his daughter a house but she wont take him in now. His wife died so he is all alone except for my moms who has preetty much been the only person he sees. They visit him every couple of months, and are just waiting to get his inheritance.

To be honest, no, I wouldn't. I should, though.

To be honest, neither my wife nor I could give the top level care that she would need if she had bad health problems.

If she was perfectly healthy she'd drive me nuts living in the same house.

Look bro, they took care of you, you should take care of them. And the truth is many nursing homes are horrible and depressing my mother has worked in them. Report It

and i visited the guy, hes a really cool person. He was in the Navy in WWII, Korea, Vietnam. He's just lonely and in the first stages of Alzheimer's. So you would think the thing he needs most is family to be there for him. Report It

That is sad--Yes I would take care of my parents--they took care of me for many years.

yea, When my parents get old i would take them in. its the right thing to do they have done so much for me and i think that's the least i could for them. You have a great mom take good care. She a good woman!!!!!!!!!

i would! They are my parents they took care of me when i was a child and now its time for me to take care of them! my family is always my family! They are in my heart! and i wouldnt want anything to happen to them!

YES!

that b*tch is wack!

It is your duty to look after your parents when they grow old. It is not only the duty but a service too.
Have you ever thought of what happens to you when you grow old, your children do not take care of you. It is a pathetic situation. Everyone should love their parents and learn to look after them as they have done all they could to you when you were a child. Looking after is not only giving money for them, but visiting them occasionally and trying to get them what they like most. It is also engaging them in conversation thereby coneying to them that they are not unwanted. also teach your children to love their grand parents and also allow them to visit them often.

Your story is sad. Honestly I wouldn't. Especially now that I'm already going through so much trouble with them. They can be very annoying and unreasonable, lol. But other than that, once they get old..I'll probably already have a family of my own and also will be busy with work. Parents can cause a lot of problems too.

Of course I would!! Provided they don't need special medical care, of course! There are many benefits for the grandchildren too. However, everybody's life is more comfortable if the grandmother/grandfather have their own room in the house and there is no sharing.

Of course! My mother cleaned my a** for 6 years! She breast fed me, she fed me, she carried me 9 months, she clothed me, she took care of me when I was sick, worked hard to save up money for college, paid for my education, bought me my first car and it was brand new...She did this all because she loves me and because I am a part of her. Who wouldn't take care of their mom and dad. Only a looser would be selfish enough to abandone their parents once they are old. Right since they can't forge them money anymore! Geez this country is going to hell! Homes are full of elderly people in need of love, and being mistreated by strangers while their lovely children are out drinking and having a great life! grrrrrrrr!

What a tough decision! We all know what we should do (take them in) and how we should feel (loving, appreciative, devoted), but this makes for a very unpleasant brew of emotions. Some advice I was given:

-- Try to help your parents be as independent as possible for as long as possible.

-- Research services that will help your parents with things they can no longer do. American Agency for the Aging provides many services such as transportation to doctors and shopping, light housework, meals on wheels, equipment, home visits, and therapy.

-- Look into assisted living arrangements. My own parents took out a policy for elder care long before they hit their seventies.

This sounds "heartless", but the truth is, when you have older parents in the home that require your care, it is just like having young children. Your freedom is gone, and you have to arrange for someone else to come anytime you step out of the house.

"Dr. Laura", on the radio says that parents should not expect children to give up their own lives in order to provide 24/7 care; that parents should desire for their grown children to have their own lives, and to plan to meet this need another way.

When these issues are left unresolved, what happens is obligation and *guilt*, and a lot of unspoken, unmet expectations. This is toxic for any relationship.

So, if you are facing this issue (i.e., you have parents and a relationship you value), it is a good idea to have some frank discussions and make some financial arrangements in advance.

I hope this helps someone.

tell ur mom to tell him to give all his money to charity
a good one when he dies, his daughter doesn't deserve to even see him.
i would take my parents in.
unless they abused me, i would take them in.
u should even visit him. talk to him, it may be interesting and u might learn some things of how time was like when he was a boy

After my mother died, I took my father in. My father had problems. He had been and alcoholic for years until he moved into my home. He took over my home, and made it a living hell until we could no longer handle this. My husband told him he had to leave.

I knew what my father was, yet i felt obligated to take care of him. My adviced is, you know you parents well, from there, with your spouse and children, you can make that decision. There is always a two side of the story.

its sad but that is reality.