The man that I am in love with is on drugs. How do I deal with this? I am a registered nurse.?

In the middle of the night I drive all over town and look for him until I find him. I let him crawl in bed with me after he has been on the streets all night after doing God know what. I have put him in rehab, after rehab but I can't let go. I don't know why I love this man so much. I remember when he was such a wonderful man to me. Now we love on the streets. I ask God to bless us while we are going through so much. I never dealt with anything like this but my love for him is so strong.

Try getting him more help, and when he's in rehab let him in there for as long as he needs to stay clean. Also try going to Al-anon and seeking help or see a drug counselor and see what can be done.

sweetie you got to give it up to your higher power jion alanon and keep trying to get him help!!!

look for a tough love group where you live. you and your boyfriend both need help. don't let him bring you down

I am sorry that I was in your dreams. I was only there to get my 2 points

Recognize that you have a need to take care of people and get counseling to handle this. Your own good impulses are not giving you a practical way to act, and you know the illegal drug connection is a risk to your occupation.

why would you let this man drag you down like that?
For Love?....are you kidding me! love someone else

dump the loser
use protection

As a nurse you are obligated to get your partner help. And as his lover, you would want to get him help, so, I suggest getting him help asap. And find help with your local church or shelter, as noone should live on the streets.

What you had in the past is not there anymore. You must look at this man for what he is today: a drug addict. You are asking for trouble if you let your heart keep you with this guy. I know you care for him, want him bad, and want to see him well, but he is not in a good place right now. You shouldn't put your life at risk because of his selfish behavior. What does that really say about you? This is a really sick relationship. Pray for him, but let him go.

Keep praying--God is there. I hate to say this, but maybe its time for an ultimatum. Does he want to stop or does he think this is a game? Rehab will only work if really wants it to. You can't continue to let this bring YOU down. Remember that you need to take care of yourself also!!

You may wish to check out Nar-Anon too. I have a husband who uses drugs and it helped me focus on what I could change (me) and not on what I wanted to change (him).

I used to live my life worrying about him and it litterally consumed me. Now I live for myself and let him be him and I am much happier and stronger for it.

Hope this helps - best wishes - Trish

I understand that you love him, but you don't have to sacrfice yourself to anyone. God will answer many prayers, but sometimes he gives us the answer w/o responding so we can use our mind not our bodies to think. When you love someone have sexual relations with them you are giving them apart of you that is supposed to be shared with your husband, ask God for strength to move on and to deal with him, if you love this man, you will let him go and have faith in YOUR FIRST TRUE LOVE, GOD, that he will lead him back and clean him up in his own due time, you can't do that.

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Tell him he either cleans up his act or your through AND RUN don't walk to the nearest exit

If you truly love him and want him clean to live a good life and hopefully die of old age and not an overdose.
Dump him you are only supporting his habit He has to hit rock bottom before he will be able to rehab And not before.So if you love him the best thing you can do is get him out of your life, Then maybe (hopefully) he will hit his rock bottom and try to rehab.Only after he has been clean for 6 months should you even go out with him again and only after being clean for 12 to 18 months should you rekindle the relationship. I believe that is the best for the both of you If it is ment to be it will be if not at least you can get on with your life. I do understand that you love him but loving him will not help him get clean.

if he's smoking soft drugs it wouldn't be so bad u can handel it easily but if it's hard drugs help hem to get out of it with all strong u've but don't leave'm so , unless he refuse to stop hard drugs.

I think that there is only so much you can do to help him out. It seems like you have gone out of your way to help him. The only thing I can think of is some sort of family intervention. But at the end of it all, he has an addiction and he has to want to quit in order to face something as difficult as that. If he doesn't want to, you will never save him. What I suggest is perhaps speaking with his closest family and friends about the issue and suggest a meeting with him. No matter what you decide, I would definitely see a counselor or therapist to help you deal with this. It seems as if you are losing yourself in this process and that isn't the right thing to do. In the end, only you can make you happy. Be prepared to face the fact that letting him go may be what you have to do right now for his sake and yours.

I have had the same problem with a close friend unfortunately. Sometime's there is nothing you can do especially when they are on Meth(crank)type drugs. Nothing matter's to them while they are doing this stuff. It usaully take's a big event or scare to wake them up, and sometime's that doesn't work. They'll steal from you and make your life misereable no matter what you do, but hopefully not. there is a better life out there....move on if you can, you can only do so much...it's there life let them destroy ot or they'll bring you with them. I hope this info helps and god bless.

Hi! I didn't got something. When you said that you "let him crawl in bed with me" you are saying that you have sex with him? Again, when you say that "now we love on the streets", are you refering to sex again?

Well... First, thanks for helping that man. A person who is in drugs needs a friendly and lovely hand at everytime. CONGRATS FOR THAT! :)

Wow... Why I asked about the sex thing? Because if you are having sex with him, specially when he is under the influence of drugs, you are reinforcing that conduct. He might be thinking that he only has sex with you when he's under the influence of drugs, or you are at your side, having sex whenenever possible because of the drugs. You SHOULD NOT HAVE SEX WITH HIM, anyrmore.

BTW, I suggest you to quit any relationship besides of been a true friend. Your pal needs a great friend, not a lover, girlfriend, not a sex partner, or anything else.

Finally, and the most important thing, keep asking God for help. You should try to commit your entire life to God, and you'll see how changes come for you and your loved ones.

If he loved you he'd work on it. Sadly it's time to move on. And the problem is you know this or you wouldn't be asking. These situations take a LOT of will-power and personal strength to do the right thing. I don't know how old you are, but if you are planning on (or even might accidentally get into) children in the future you must also think of them. Trust me, life is not fun for the kid of an addict. Do take care. You are a great person and you need to just believe that and do what you know is right. Be brave, be bold. Take care. God Bless.

Get a pet and love the animal, and dumb him down an ally and never look back.

You can't help this guy, only he can find the way. It's a choice of lifestyle he made.

If you lay down w/ dogs, you get up w/ fleas.

well after all ur experience with him then u must know by now that he isnt going to quit until he is absolutely ready to quit. sometimes (speaking from personal experience) the person has to fall completely on their butts or back to square one before anything will happen, other than that it has to be something life altering. and thats not good either. as far as u are concerned u can only put up with what u want to put up with. do u want to do drugs too?? are u even a little curious about it?? pls dont be. u are way smarter than that. u just have to decide that enough is enough, u cant save him, he can only save himself. start working overtime and slowly start parting ways. if he is out smoking crack, crackheads will do ANYTHING for it. the decision is urs to make, and it sounds like to me u want out otherwise u wouldnt be asking. he will never be the same again...never!! really i cant say that...it will take YEARS for him to remember what it was like to live his life without drugs and lots of patience.