I cant stand this any longer, i NEED advice!?

this is kinda long but plz read it all & help! My oldest sister [i will refer 2 her as s1] got pregnant wen she was 17 & then moved 2 cali. w/ her new husband since he is n the navy. my parents r still 2gether but my dad is a traveling nurse who is also working in cali. i no my mom has been rlly stressed 2 but i feel neglected. she is always on the fone w/ either my dad or s1. i talked 2 her about it & she said she understood but she didnt change anything. wen she talks 2 my sis they talk about me being "emo" or "gothic", which im not either. i am still a young teen & im finally trying 2 b myself rather than wat the ppl around me want me 2 b so they say im emo, which makes me furious bc i HATE labels like that. anyways, they say i do drugs & smoke & drink & im a "wh*re" but im not! it makes me mad wen they say these things bc they shld no me well enuff 2 no i wldnt do those things. i try 2 stay calm but they provoke me until im yelling & screaming & then they say i have an attitude.

i have all A's and B's n skool & i have my life planned out 4 the most part so its not like idk wat im gonna do w/ myself but i cant stand the accusations. i used 2 get along w/ my mom great 7 we wld talk & joke all the time but now we cant. they say im depressed but wen they say it they make it sound like im choosing 2 b depressed bc i think its cool, which is NO WHERE NEAR THE TRUTH! my parents & both of my sisters r all perfect 2gether but im just an outcast in my family bc they accuse me so much. i want my old life back! so please, if you can give me any advice, please help!

[[also, talking 2 a counselor or anything like that is NOT an option]]

In a lot of ways I agree with Blackstar.

Y'know, it's not your fault your mom is stressed. It's your mom's fault that she can't deal with things and won't get help, or accept that she is stressed and move on from there.

It sounds like because your sister has moved away--despite getting pregnant under-age--your mother has put her up on a pedestal, and that's normal for people to idealize people who are not longer with them. However, you're still there, and you're "different" from your older sister. I imagine she wears pastels and things.

My kid has white hair and always looks like she came out of an anime. It's what she does, and people stare all the time--to me, it's okay. It's other people who have the problem if they can't deal with it.

--people don't like people who are different. You trying to be yourself as a young teenager is going to make people upset. It's the time when most kids are the most conformist, and they're like wolves. They will attack "different" wolves. Some people--like parents, don't like it either. Parents are people, they listen to what others say, and if they aren't strong enough to say--"she's my kid, she's not hurting anyone, leave her alone". She might get influenced to dislike you. And if your mom is stressed and not strongly centered in her own identity, she'll dislike you even more.

If you know you're an okay person, that's the only thing that matters.

I know they're provoking you, but you gotta try to stay calm, there is nothing a provoker likes more than "reaction". Be calm, stay calm, ride it out. They WILL go away if you don't react. It becomes boring, see?

I know why you can't go to a counselor. It's because of two things. Because your mom won't take you. And your school counselor is probably not sympathethic. And sometimes that happens. Counselors are also people. THey have prejudices like anyone else.

If you need to talk to anyone, call your local teen hotline. It's not just for "problem" people. You can talk, anonymously, and maybe get some advice from a person who has been there-done that, or know more about what you can do.

Think. Stay calm.

You can't "talk" to people who have already judged you. Just bide your time, and try to stay out of the way. And stay prepared for when you finally get out of school.

This must be really hard for you. Let them know that you exist, that you need them to care about you and that you're still young. It is hard for your parents too. You just have to put yourself in your parents' places. It is still kind of their fault, so talk to them about it again and make them understand that you need them.

you are letting them push your buttons. Just go about your business and finish school and do what you have to do. because it seem they are going to have their opinion of you already, but what do your father think? I wish you luck

You know what tell them how you feel.and tell them when they tell you that you have an attitude,tell them to stop talking to you and about you like that.Cause,God is coming soon.And,God will end up teaching them.also tell them,not to give you a reason to make them yell.

I am sorry for all these to happen. You definately need someone to talk to. You should sit down with your mum and explain to her how you feel. Tell her that you love her and understand that she's also stressed but hope for her support. Tell her that you are not purposely trying to be depress and you are fighting for your life, trying your best at school and making plan to give yourself a successful future. Be honest and truthful and tell her that you feel as if you two have drifted apart and you two used to be closer. Tell her that your sister are giving you a hard time.

I suggest you try speaking to your mum first and then tell your sister in a serious mannered. Ask them to respect you.

I know you said that counselling is NOT AN OPTION. But if none of these really worked or you still have problems you should seriously consider seeing a counseller. I don't know what is the big deal, they have decided to be one because they want to support and help people like you. They won't mind listening to you at all. If you don't want to see one then i suggest you try speaking to a understanding friend or another trusted adult around you.

Don't be afriad to talk. It may be tough but soon you'll work through it. I don't want to say this but if after a few years they are still giving you hard time and do not understand then I suggest you move out for a while before moving in with them so you can focus on your life and build it up but don't forget your family, remember to always let them know that you still love them.

i don't know what to tell you. Just sitck it out until after college. Then you'll be free.