Why would she do this?

I am a ER nurse on travel assignment 800 miles away from wife. She called me out of the clear blue sky and told me she's leaving me. I have been a faithful husband and provider, good friend, and a good father to our children. We planned getting a house (thats why I'm a travel nurse) and settling on down together. We would have been married for 10 yrs this year.
What on earth is she thinking?
She is 37 and Im 38, too soon for midlife crap.

Just because she wants out does not mean you were not a wonderful husband and father. Sometimes you can do everything right and still find yourself in a situation where your spouse wants out.
All you can do is give her the freedom to find what she thinks is better for her, and you will also find someone who will appreciate you for all you have to offer. A man with morals! Who works!! You wont stay single long!!! Good luck!

She is probably tired of being alone if you travel a lot, or she is cheating on you and is leaving you because she has a mister somewhere.

I wish you the best. It sucks that she would do this to you. Can you go to marriage counseling or something?

Marry me then, i can't stand woman who have a great husband and mess up. All I can say is that maybe she just got tired of the married life and wants to do her life on her own.

Try to convey your heart to her .
God bless both of you .

Maybe she wants you to stop traveling. Go home and talk to her. See if she's serious.

Do you travel alot? That's sometimes the reason spouses cheat or leave. They're lonely.

Sounds like a mid life crisis... Not too soon!

Either she has a reason or she would be staying. There is a motive~ infedelity or lack of satisfaction of some type.
Hope you get things sorted out! Sorry for your situation.
Get a good attorney!

ooo sorry to hear that but u must take into consideration that your being away could have brought her closer to some other guy. When a woman is alone with her own thoughts she can damage a relationship. Her imagination can be a cruel thing

She feels neglected due you your traveling job and has found someone else locally more than likely. She is probably also very tired of doing everything likea single mom when you are gone. What you consider a good father & husband, might not be what she considers one. You justify your job by the money, but women justify relationships by their heart.

If you want to try to save your marriage I'd get a job as fast as you can that stays local & ask her to enter marriage counseling.

I'm so sorry, what a terrible way to tell you-- but that is a sign that she doesn't have the guts to tell you to your face-and don't be surprised if she and your kids are gone when you come back--no confrontation that way.

She is NOT to young for mid life-- I went through it at 38 years old, so there is no set age...though I think there is a lot more to this -- like another guy---how can she afford to leave you with the kids without having a nest egg somewhere to start her off? or is her parents still alive?

Sorry for your loss but honestly, you sound like a great guy and a hard worker- you deserve a better life and wife-- which doesn't make you feel better now but in time it will. Since you are a travel nurse--travel further and meet new people--the change will do you good......I do believe she has someone on the side...........sorry.

That is suspicious. If you are a good husband and good father, then there's a possibility that she is or was cheating on you and she can't take the guilt of what she did or is doing, so she broke up with you. Oh! And I said there's a possibility. I don't know for sure, but it's a suggestion.

what is her reasoning? maybe you need to ask what's wrong and offer to fix that. no house is worth losing your marriage. marriage is the foundation to the happy home. take a job closer if you have to....find out what she needs. ask her what she needs to be happy. if only all guys would ask that!

I think you need to ask her. It could be so many things. After you do ask her report back on what she said. I might be able to help you break it down from there. Hopefully she is just overwhelmed with some aspect that she went straight for the absolutes and said she wanted to break up. This would probably mean that she is irrational and likely to take it back after talking it over with you. hang in there, and try to find the reasoning behind this in the most rational and poised voice you can. No one responds to yelling, rude or abusive behavior. good luck

Two things.1. she could be bored,tired like me.Or 2. There is someone else.Try talking to her.

I think she has found someone locally who already has a house. She feels a little guilty so she tells you how good you are "BUT"....

Admit it, she has plenty of opportunity to find someone else when you are gone all the time.

I have no idea. I have been married 11 years and the only thing I can think of is bordem. She is missing a little romance and has found it somewhere else. My husband and I agreed that this is why woman cheat. Men cheat because of sex. Woman cheat because of romance and the feeling of the firsts.

My husband and I make a point of romance and sex being different romance is not sex and sex is not romance. I dont know how else to describe it.

Anyway, I am sorry..really.. midlife issues or not.. that is not fair.

She may just be lonely. But, my instincts tell me that she's found company in another man. I hope for your sake I'm wrong. Sounds to me like she just doesn't appreciate all that you do for her and your family. Best of luck.

Gosh, I'm so sorry. Maybe she will change her mind. Seems very strange though. And so she left you no clue whatsoever as to why she is leaving?

If you are as good a guy as you say, then it is most definitely her loss! So many people wish for someone good like you....then when they have it, they go and throw it away. So sorry...maybe you will get a chance to talk to her and you could try therapy. My husband and I have been and it really does help. Good luck to you!

you know what i donno why women do this.... i mean you could find another job and be home more... but are you making good money are her bills paid are her kids taken care of do you beat her do you cheat on her no she un greatful.... i'm a military wife and i only seen my husband for like 2 months in the last two years at al different times... and the pay sucks and we barly can talk.... but i'm still by his side.. be happy she's leaving you, you diserve someone better anyway

Proof positive,some other man who already owns own home is warming your bed.Sorry old pal.hold off on getting the house till she files for legal separation so that you can keep the house.At least something good would come out of her stunt.
don't worry life now begins at 50

It's simple:

The grass isn't always greener on the other side.

and:

You don't know what you got 'til it's gone.

She has already told you what she is thinking, she wants a divorce.

she dont know a good thing when she has it, i would definitely ask questions as to why she done this for your peace of mind, but i would'nt waste anymore time on her you sound like a good guy and there are way to many women at in the world hunting for a guy like you. good luck and be happy.

Same thing happened to me, only she took everything including my life savings.