My evil mother in law loves my husband's ex-girlfriend! Help!?

We are happily married, no infidelities, married 9 years, 3 children. I take great care of my husband, nice dinner every night, kids fed & clean. I am attractive, physically fit, and educated. We've got a great thing going on here.

MIL loves his ex-girlfriend. Brings her around, torments me
when she gets me alone how she still wishes they were together. No kids between them. She puts the girl's pic up on her TV and when I didn't acknowledge it, she taped it on the door handle of the door I had to walk through to get out. This girl treated my husband terrible, cheated on him, had him beat up (he wound up in the hospital w/ stitches from a cinder block in the head) she's bad news, I don't know why my MIL loves her so much. I followed my own mother's advice and tried to ignore it and soon she would love me instead.. I can't wait anymore. My husband tried to talk to her & she said if he didn't like it he shouldn't come over anymore. Is this normal? Is MIL nuts, or am I?

I have actually had very little contact w/ MIL since my 30th B'Day party out at a restaurant & "coincidentally" the ex girlfriend & her mother were seated @ the table next to us. Both of my inlaws left my long party table & went over there for a while. I had very little to do w/ them until recently. My husband reassured me......I let my guard down. Now I will NEVER have anything to do with my inlaws. I almost feel betrayed by my husband when he goes over there or when he talks on the phone to his mother. I think he should defend me by yelling at her or cutting her off.

She only loves the ex-girlfriend because he didn't marry her. She only hates you because he did. The crazy MIL is pretty normal. I suggest you do as she suggested: stop coming around. By continuing to visit her, you're enabling her behavior. She's like a child - she needs to punished, or she'll never stop. Tell your husband that its setting a bad example for the kids to let them witness their grandmother treating their mother so poorly. I'd cease all visits for at least 6 months, and then offer her the chance to give you a very sincere, face to face apology. If she refuses, give her another 6 months. 9 years is MORE than enough time for you to have to put up with this.

Your mother in law is a real ********* ... maybe you should just tell her what she has been doing all these years and let her know it bothers you and maybe she need to quit.

I'm in the same boat, My in laws period hate me. Your mil is nuts not you. Are u sure we don't have the same in laws? sounds so familiar.

Becareful MIL have alot of influence on their sons. Is he a mamas boy, if so I feel sorry for you. He must be a mamas boy, why is she in his business. Be carefull, if the warning signs are there, protect yourself, coat your feelings and leave. MIL can and will destroy you. She will never love or like you. She is disrespecting you. Be a woman end that EVIL WOMAN PLANS. Don't get caught in the mist. Please, because I did and I know others who let MIL destory their life.

Maybe your husband needs to talk to her and try to set down some rules while you are around. She obviously isn't giving you a chance. Try to have a talk to her about why she does these things. I know it will be hard to talk to her but it's worth a shot. If that doesn't work try to stay away.

your mil sounds just like mine!!! except she LOVES his EX WIFE!! you are not nuts.. she just doesn't want to accept the fact that her son is finally happy and has a family of his own.. i know what you are going thru and i am so i am so very sorry for this!! it is not normal i would say.. however in her mind, it may be normal.. you guys may want to not go around her for awhile and see if things change.. if she doesn't see her son or grandkids for about 2-4 weeks, she may change.. is he the only child she has? i have to ask that question.. my mil used to tell me that i would never be as good as his exwife.. she also used to tell me that i only want my hubby to myself bc when we married, 2 months later we moved out and got our own place..she had said that i came in and took her son away from her.. she used to have pics of him and his exwife still hanging up in the house and in her wallet and everywhere.. got on my nerves.. so i went through the house, took them down, and ripped them up in her face after we got married.. then i told her that he was married to me now and she could either deal with it or not come around us and not be able to see her grandchild.. needless to say, she no longer brings her up or anything... so, that worked for me.. she went into a nursing home for about 7 or 8 months.. when she started bringing up his exwife then, i told her that i wasn't driving over 100 miles to hear her talk about that woman and since she started doing it again, i just wasnt gonna drive up there and bring her grandson to see her anymore.. and sure enuf, i no longer went up there.. she didn't see her son or grandchild for 6 of those 7 months.. just stand up to her is what i say.. hope this helps!!

Quite frankly, your MIL is not a nice person at all. And the fact that she wants her son to be with a woman that treated him so badly is just plain sick. However you can't do anything, your husband however can. It's time for him to stand up to his mother. It's very simple, your husband needs to tell his mother, play nice with my wife, or we don't have a relationship (and by we I mean your entire immediate family, yes children included). After that the ball is in your MIL's court. I

All of that is only one sided-- according to you--- so I have to take everything with a grain of salt.

Women "click" just like men do. Some people just like each other and some can't go beyond a hello. If you have to win every friend in this world, you are wasting your energy. So inlaw obviously clicks with the ex and there ain't much you can do. If there is a conspiracy going on, you can go nuts worried about it. The aging ex going after the same fish?

If you want a duel, it is a win/lose outcome. There is no win/win. The only option is no duel. No matter how hard you try, there are always people smarter, richer, prettier, etc.

You are educated as you said. You already have a strong hand of cards -- children, long and happy marriage, husband who loves you. A happy family standing together is the best defense against conspiracy. Your role is to be seen as a supportive wife and a loving mother handling yourself with grace and shows no sign of distress. Distress signals the opposite side you are faltering. This sounds so Harry Potter but true.

Something's not right here. What kind of mother would like a girl that got her son brutally beaten up?

I am sorry but your story sounds so far fetched. Why would your husband mother want him to go back to a woman who did all of these things to him especially had him beaten up. You seem to detail how supposedly great and educated you are compared to his ex girlfriend, who you painted as the wicked witch of the west. I find some of those things really hard to believe, e.g, the picture incident that sounds really bizzarre, but hey if I am wrong and you are telling the truth well then I am sorry and your MIL is nuts but if this is not true and your making it up to make it sound that she is worse than what she really is and you just don't like the girl because she is on friendly terms with his mom then you are nuts. I don't mean to sound harsh but this really does not add up, but there is too sides to every story and maybe their is a good reason why she does not like you.