How to get over deep pain from an EX?

My ex-boyfriend always claimed to love me to death. He was always there for me, and would cry his eyes out anytime I would try to break up with him.I gave up everything for him. I spent a huge chunk of my life trying to keep him happy.

One day I started coughing blood and couldn't breath. I was taken to the ER. From there my brother contacted him and told him what happened... his responce : "ok, tell her to take care, I can't talk right now." Then that's what he did on the day of the surgery too.

I'm fine physically but this deep wound on my heart refuses to leave. After giving and doing so much for him, he simply dissapeared out of my life. I even tried to kill myself over it because I feel I have no reason to live.

Any advice?

Mistake one. Prioritizing your "ex"'s happiness over your very own.

Mistake two. Taking your ex's insensitive response as a sign of tragedy when, in fact, it is a blessing.

You have your life and that is what is most precious!

You should get down on your knees and be thankful that you were able to find out that your "ex" honestly could care less about your well-being and welfare.

Can you only imagine how much more devastated you would have been if y'all got married and he had an affair on the day of your surgery?

The irony is -- you have EVERY reason to live. You have ditched the deadwood, you still have your health, and if you gain the proper perspective about the relationship with your ex, you have a chance at finding a more suitable and caring mate.

Crying over your "ex" is liking crying over the feces that you see in the toilet after a bowel movement. It's high time that you press the handle, flush the toilet, and welcome the feeling of relief after such a sweet release.

Good luck.

Dump him but 1st, cheat on him and then tell him all the guys you slept with were bigger and better than him...

Yes,I Have Advice For You. Find A Man Worthy Of Your Affections,And Enjoy The Life God Has Given You......."DAWG"

I dont know what to say but maybe get some help with that suicide attempt, no one is worth killing your self for. Once you get over that than maybe try finding a better man than him.

just keep yourself busy all the time, it will lessen the pain but not totally erased.

time will heal the wound. so dont rush things. just be brave to face the problem.

clearly you deserve better! Fine or not he should of been by your side at the hospital. After that behavior I would end it and find someone who will be there for you through everything. Noone should have to give up anything to please someone else girl you really know the answer.

i know how your feeling i broke up with my bf last night i also spent most of my life keeping him happy i stoped seeing my friends for him an stoped seeing my family as much as i did but he bought a club an has a new job an hasnt got time for me i feel like endinjg it to sometimes. you will find someone tho who will want to spend most of there life keeping you happy you will feel better eventualy i know it dosnt seem it right now but it will an u will be fine just try an keep busy an try an not think of jhim i know thats hard to do but thats what im doing right now thats why i am sitting on the pc all day hope you feel better soon hunny x

just forget abt him...and find another on for aperiod of time...he may help u to forget
put ur head in any another activity
stay all time with people...that will help u
u can come and chat with me...to waste some time

Nothing or no one is worth killing yourself. They say if a person jump off a 10,000 ft deep cliff to kill him/herself, chances are on the middle of the trip down to their death, they word regret jumping off that cliff and think that things are not so bad after all...but the catch is,,,it is to late and there is no going back.

i kno that the way he acted must have been very hurtful to you, but although it might be hard, you will find another man who you will love even more and who will have those strong feelings for you also. Don't worry, things will work out. A girl I know is going through this also, but she just trys to stop thnking about him and does other things that won't remind her of him. Please don't kill yourself, becuase even though it seems like the end of the world now, in time things will get better. Nothing is worth your life. Just try to sepnd a lot of time with your family; family seems to help make things better. Alos, if you keep on feeling like you have no reason to live, try telling somebody about this, someone who is close to you. Ending a relationship that you put so much into is very difficult, but over time, you will feel better. I hope this helped. Good luck! =)

How to get over the pain of an ex that hurt you. It can be done and I'm proof of it. You have to change your thoughts and feelings for him. In your mind, you have what is called your memories of him, moments you shared, all the wonderful things you did for him, out of caring for him and wanting to please him. Now, remember and realize that is not what it was to him. To him, and the reality is, he said what he said to you to get his needs met. To fill himself up. Real love is not like that. Real love is about giving, and about making someone happy. He was only concerned with making himself happy. Be strong and work to change the REALITY of what your relationship with him was all about. If he had given a damn about you, he would have behaved differently. To put this behind you focus on yourself, love yourself and surround yourself with good people that have no connection whatsoever to him. Do things that make you feel good, challenge yourself, push yourself to be a wonderful human being. All of what I just wrote is what I have done to forget about someone that wronged me. And, it does work. Be positive in your life. When positive energy surrounds you, good people will be attracted to you, a good, decent man will come into your life. I am a firm believer in this. It happened to me. Good luck and take care.

time, only time will do it.

Your man needed a Mommy. As my late great friend once said "All men need a nanny". So off your knees, up with your self respect. You already had times when you wanted to break up with him. Why? Well then, there are the reasons he is no good and his stunningly inconsiderate response to your illness when you really needed him means he is a selfish pig. You are lucky he went. But tell me - why should someone kind and considerate and giving think it is good to be in a relationship with a selfish ***tard? I know women who stay with abusive partners. It tears my heart out. Don't you be one as well. Please don't even think about self harming - you have done nothing wrong. There are men out there just aching to have someone to care for - I pray you find one and soon. Hang in there - you still have a whole life ahead of you. And if loser shows up show him the door fast. Good luck and hugs.

Why would you want to hurt your beautiful body over an A*S*S*H*O*L*E who only cared about himself. I know you loved him and did for him anything he wanted. Well the best way to move on is get all his pictures and put them in a coffee can and light them up and watch them burn and tell yourself. HE is gone and I am free to move on. Also take a long walk and enjoy the day and se how refreshed you will feel. ANd if anytime you start remembering hima gain, jsut remmebre how he acted and how he treated you when you really needed him and you will froget him fasterr.

First of all...my dear friend>>>> NO MAN IS WORTH KILLING YOURSELF OVER...believe me!!! I know exactly how you feel when you are still in love with an Ex---I am goinng through that right now, and the thing that makes it harder is I am allowing this man to still "pull me along" on a string. He is dating someone else now too...and he still is talking to me...it kills me!! All y friends tell me..to let go...but, like you, that deep wound in your heart...it is hard to let go, when you still love someone. I was finally honest enough to tell him.."I still loved him"...and after I said it...I felt so stupid. I got my feelings out-- but now I think he knows he has me...
So as far as you go..."quit giving and being a doormat".....believe me ..when they think they can take advantage of you...they get some "high" off it!!!
We both deserve so much better....if you ever need to talk...let me know...many hugs..........and keep smiling :-)

Just like how the song goes...

"You're still young,
thats your fault,
theres still so much you have to"

well what i mean is... move on with your own life..i didnt say its guna be easy... only time can heel these wounds from the inside... get distracted... to something else that you would enjoy... anything that would get ur mind off things!

ok take care.

how long were you two together? how old are you both? these things will help give better advice-

u know fr wat my girl friend left me behind of her life..cause she get someone who can cry fr her nd i cant. ..is it a enough cause for brake off ?.......is crying prove it that how much nyone love u?then **** off ......live ur life.we ar not here fr defit nd we do not give chance nyone fr playing with our life nymore...........
come on sweet heart...................just try to see this world is fr u i nd people like us....who learn a great lession from every separation,every pain every sorrow,every fall.....................
keep smileing ,here is another one in this world who will not even cry fr u he will give his life for u without say u nything.belive god belive faith.......come on yar cheer up......

WOW!!!! Angel, you have every reason to live. First, if the picture you have up here is you, then you should have no trouble meeting men. Second, you should never give anybody that much of your power to make you want to hurt yourself. I have been in your shoes, and attempted suicide over a woman, but I have learned how to not let anyone have that much power over me. And you can too! I know this hurts deeply, and your pain is real and seems like it will never get better, but believe me when I tell you it will. I think you should work on getting your sense of self and pride back to where it was and realize that losing him has done nothing but open up a whole world of possibilities for you. Now you're free to let God do his thing and point the right man your way. You have to make yourself happy, nobody else can do that for you. I've always had love find me when I wasn't looking. Just concentrate on how you can be a better you, and the rest of this thing we struggle through called life will fall into place. And remember, you deserve a much better man than the one you just lost, allow yourself to let him find you! Good luck to you, Peace!

Well they say one thing then do another, it happens and feelings change. I wouldn't waste anymore of my life on him.You shouldn't have to try to keep him happy, but you should keep each other happy. Maybe you were trying too hard and it back-fired.
I hope you don't take this the wrong way but if you are threatning to kill yourself unless he takes you back then you'll never have him. That is just desparation which is not a desirable characteristic that anyone wants in a relationship.
However, if you just want to die because the pain and loss is so great then DON'T DO IT- HE'S NOT WORTH IT!!!!! It hurts but it goes away, believe me, it will make you a better person to just go through it. And if it wasn't a desparate ploy to win him back, then who cares, he's a jerk for not being there for you. You deserve someone much better.

there is no need ti kill yourself of a guy cause he won't kill himself if you leave him. relationships are like canned food they just expire over time. why long relationships survive is not that love is still in them but they have become a famil to each other. just get on with life. it is bound to hurt but things will be not so hurting so more. when you look back in life when you are old, it is really nothing much to you anymore. Liven up!!

Quit beating yourself up over this loser. There are plenty of fish in the sea. You sound like a very caring person, find someone more deserving of someone like you.

it takes time, it's all a part of growing up and learning how to control our emotions. i'm sorry that your relationship turned sour, but that is life sometimes we don't get what we deserve.