I need some help, I am in love with a girl and I do not know what to do...?

Ok so here is the story. I have been friends with this girl since we were 16. We are both 29 now. She got married about 5 years ago and divorced about 3 years ago. As soon as I found out she was divorced I tried to take her on a date but she had already meet someone else. Well she wound up getting pregnate by this person and having a child with him. Their relationship turned bad and he started verbally and physically abusing her. She has now left him and we have hooked up a couple of times but she is in a weird place right now. I really love her and I always have. Now she is going to move far away and I fear that I might lose her forever!! I would marry this girl in a heartbeat and take care of her child. The problem is I am not sure she feels the same way about me nor am I sure she is ready for a serious relationship right now. I need to know what to do. I want to confess my love to her but I fear I will scare her away. I would die for this girl, someone please help me!!

I am trying to buy a house right now so she can have a nice place to raise her kid. Hopefully it will be our kid because I would love her just like she was my own. The only problem I really see is that she wants to move far away because she is afraid of the childs father. I have no doubt that he would hurt her or kill her if he could find her. I thought about offering to move with her and help her get a new start. However I have a great job and it is the only way I can afford to take care of both of them. If I lose my job it will be real hard to find a job that even pays me half of what I am making now.

Its now or never, either you risk scaring her away or she moves and you miss your chance. Shes worth the risk, don't you think?

wow. i bet if she read what u just typed....she would fall for u.

srry i dont have time to read the whole thing but ummmm...i think u should just go for it!!!! tell her how u feel and see wut she says bout it...kk and idk bout u but i always think that its best to take a chance cuz u dont want her to leave u and lose her 4ever right...so just tell her how u feel and promise that youll always be there for her!!!! being that shes been through sooo much all u can do is promise that u will love her 4 ever and she probably will love u back..considering that u guys have hooked up...well take a chance and go for it...see wut happens and u never know...there may be wedding bells ringing sometime soon!!!! :P best of luck to ya! :D

tell her how u realy feel about her and how much u want to be want her. it can realy help

If I were you, I would tell her how you feel. You only live once and if you let this chance go, you might regret it always. Everyone has regrets about the past and if they could change it they would, here's your shot. If she feels the same way then she wont be scared away.

wow...
omg..
get her before its too late!

Your in the typical position of being stuck between a rock and a hard place, but you already knew that.

I've been married twice and my second wife who I will love forever till the day I die has similar qualities. She was a single mother not looking for a relationship and I went for it. We went back and forth for awhile but ended up marrying because I told her how I felt about her and told her I would take care of her, and I show her everyday those two things. Now I tell you this so you know that I understand where your coming from. With that said, tell her how you feel and be ready for rejection, it sucks, but you'll always live in regret or have that question of what if. Don't let a second chance pass you by...remember, once shame on me, twice shame on you.

I live by old sangs...tell her how you feel. If she turns you away respect that and be there for her anyways. Never give up on something you love.

Hey man, I am in a similar boat too.

the only thing that I can suggest for you, is: If you truly love her, Let her know! Let her know before it is too late.
On one hand, she can feel the same way and stay, you do not have to jump into a 'serious' relationship right away...
On the other hand, You 'scare her away', but she is already going away, right? And at least she knows how you feel about her. maybe in the future, she'll come back, who knows.

But if you don't tell her, you will spend the rest of you life always second guessing your decision, asking, What If?

Myself, I told her, and she felt the same way, and things worked out for us, and her little daughter...

Good luck man.

you just made my eyes teary l can not believe that someone would love and stand by someone for such a long time and confess undying love for them despite all the pain you have seen her go through and the pain you have been through in silence because you put her first..sweetheart l think you have tested fate too much you have given this girl too many chances to try with other people it is time you confessed and show her how much you love her..you must do it! do you know how bad she will feel after she finds out that you loved her all along..believe me or not you have made me so sad knowing that someone can love for that long and not say a word..it is something to live for in this loveless world.all the best

Wow, this is a very painful story for you man. I do not think she deserves you, she has always put you aside and made her choices, and came back you when she screwed things up. I understand your feelings, still, I would not suggest you go for her, although she might "return" felings since she is stuck now, but what will happen when she is centered again? Will she love you the way you deserve to be loved? I'd strongly recommend to get to meet some other girl. because she has never seen you as a lover, but as a friend.
However, as you say you have strong feelings for her, tell her. If she loves you back, OK, if she goes away, much better. Either way, you win or you win, because you will get your life back.
P.S. Someone like her does not deserve you.
Best of luck.