Why do parents show little interest on their kids?

My mom does nothing but nag me and she always finds something to yell at me about. I have a 3 year old brother here and he gets her so wound up she just wants to hit him. Instead she leaves him to cry, leaving me to take care of him. Don't get me wrong that kid is my life. But i hate it. She shuts us out after like 11:30 and goes into her "cave" in which she calls her room with her boyfriend Joe. He's changed her alot. But i love him. He's already more of a dad to me then my dad ever was. But When she is with him it's all about him and not about us. I don't know. Maybe i'm only doing this bewcause she spends more time with her boyfriend then she does with her own flesh and blood. But when i hear my Riker cry i get so mad i could just kill someone. All I want is my mother to be proud of me. And maybe spend some one- on - one time with me and my brother instead of a family thing. It's always a family thing. We haven't had a mother-daughter night in almost a year. I'm gettin sick of it!!

Have you tried telling her all this? You're not going to solve your problem by telling everyone else. It seems like the one person who can give you the answer is your mom herself.

cuz we dont want them n our lives yes we will make mistakes n u parents already know so wait until after we make them then talk 2 us

You all need help and you need to call the cops and Child Protective Services on her.

Wow that's really sad , I hope everyything works out soon . But anyways to answer your question it's not that ALL parents show little interests on their kids it's just that SOME parents do that . And the reason why I think your mother does that to you and your brother is because she's just been a little too much into Joe and not too much into her kids , which I think is really bad . No offense .

Do you think it could be that she feels like she has no time to herself? I've got a 3-year-old girl, and she's around all the time.. sometimes I just want to be Lisa, and not "Mommy" ALL THE **** TIME!!! Maybe your mom wants to be herself, and not just Mom.
I get this impression because you say she goes and hides.. parents who do that are usually overwhelmed, exhausted, and just plain tired. Parents used to have lives of their own, before they were Mom or Dad, and they start to miss that when they feel overwhelmed by their children.

Try this: keep Riker and yourself out of her way for one day. Maybe walk him to the park or something. Tell her you're giving her the day/afternoon off from being "Mom", so she can just do the things she wants to do. When she sees that you care about her, and not just what she can do for you (that's what most parents think of their kids - that they want, want, want all the time - whether or not it's true), she might feel less like running and hiding in her "cave" all day and more like spending time with you and your brother.

It'll also help if you do a lot to help her out around the house, and ask her if you can help her with (what she's doing). Do your best not to make a lot of demands of her, and let her have some personal time.

My heart goes out to your family. All mothers are not like this, in fact, most mothers are not that i know of. I am a mother of 5 children and I try to give them each one on one time daily, weekly and monthly. daily might even be only 15 min but that is better then nothing. As far as her leaving you to be the caretaker of your little brother, that is completely wrong. She is shirking her duties as a mother and you are probably too young for the responsibility (since you sound like a teenager to me). It sounds like she is a very needy person and probably wasnt ready for the responsibilities of parenthood herself. She sounds like she is needing validation as a person from her bf. I am sure, in the best way she can, that she loves you, but the relationship is not a healthy one at all. My thoughts are to try to get counceling as a family but I dont see you being able to convince her of that. You and your little brother REALLY need quality parenting and you are just not getting it. Talk to your councelor at school. This is a risk because social services might be brought into the situation, as they should be, and you two might be taken away from her. But this might just be the wake up call she needs and social services will MAKE you guys go to counceling. You should not be raising your brother, heck you are still a kid !!
I am sorry, I am not sure I should have bothered to answer this question but I hear your cry for help. /hugs to you both and I hope you can find some way to get your mom to listen to you.Good luck dear