Please help me I cant stop self harming?

I am nearly 14 and I am always depressed. Since I was 11. I guess it was starting secondary school, and since then I haven't been happy. In primary school I was a happy girl, and didnt really think much of selfharm. My dads always been a bastard to me but I didnt let it get to me. But now he is a complete control freak, he sometimes doesnt let me out, and I'm only allowed to do what he says. My mum disagrees and she is always nice to me, but my mums in work alot when my dad isnt so hes always nasty then. I tell my mum about it then he makes up lies to her to make her go agaisnt me. I cant stop selfharming. I feel like I have no friends left either...selfharming makes me feel better. I have never told my mum ever, she would think i'm pathetic. no one understands me, i'm always depressed and I cry lots and lots and my dad doesnt care, he just goes 'OH GO CRY THEN YOU LITTLE BABY' and I get so wound up I find it hard to breathe and stuff :( Please help I want to be a bit happier..

Im sorry that you feel this way. Self harming is a real psychological problem and you are going to need either a pschologist or a psychiatrist. You need help and you need to express that to either your parents or your school conselor. You wont be able to stop it on your own. Depression is a mind disorder and unless you are good at controling your mind, you will need intervention. I will pray for you my love. I find a good way to control your mind is through meditation. But that may or not work for you. And just know that your parents do not control your life. Only your childhood. You will be free from them someday so just keep striving for that day and looking forward to it. Its coming soon. Do everything you can so that when you turn 18 you can get away. There is ssooooooo much out there in life. Dont let this moment ruin the rest. YOu will go to college. Find love, have a house a car and and babies. Dont let this moment bring you down. Think of what you can learn from it to make you stronger rather thatn sucumbing to it and letting it defeat you. Stay strong baby girl. There is sunshine after the storm clouds.

You need to get help... Go talk to your school counsellor about your feelings, so that you can get the help you need and deserve. Don't do anything brash. Get help.

Tell a counsoler at school.

Go talk to a trusted teacher or counselor at school.
Or you could always just just come home from school until your mom comes home from work.

Talk to a teacher or a counselor. I know that what they say does not always agree with what you think, then again, the way they would try to solve your problems is from another point of view

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dont worry your not alone there are loads of people who self harm as a way that releives them from the pain of this world. Its only you that can help yourself just dont worry your parents dont need to know but professional help would be the best way forward

Just avoid him and focus on doing things that make you happy, to give your life a balance.

Please find an adult you trust, and ask him or her to help you. You can get the help you need, but you need to ask someone who can help you get it. Be brave; this is really hard -- but there are big rewards to be had. Good luck!

This is a tricky situation.
You could talk to your counselor at school,but your father may get alittle upset.
Still,i think it would help.
You could also try and REALLY talk with your mom.
Maybe when hes not around.
Just tell her about everything & im sure she'll understand.
& shes not going to think your pathetic for self-harming.
Your her daughter.shes not going to think that way.
shes going to want to help.
You could also make a diary.
I know it sounds so childish,but it can really help get your feeling out in a better way.

Goodluck,and i really hope things get better!
:=]

I would go see the school counsler about ur problem. I've had the same problem and when I told her about my problem she fixed it! When ur father is alone with you and he does something to you that you dont like then i would call the police...you dont deserve to be treated this way!
I hope I helped and I hope you get this problem solved!

sometimes its good to use negitive influence or anger as a motive. Harmming urself isnt good and depression and tears are only gonna make u hate urself. i too have a similar problem and sometimes my father would come home drunk and stuff. just try smileing more often, find a goal, and try making new friends. and ur father...i guess talkinf wound not be a option so try ingoring him for a while and dont show him ur weakness. if u need a friend...ill be ur friend =) i posted up my msn name if u want it. feel free to IM me.

You're best bet would be go straight to your school councellor or a counsellor outside of school, (you can go to your Doctor and ask him/her about seeing one).. you need to talk to someone right away, and they can help you get through this torture you are going through, it's not fair of your Mum not to listen to you, sounds like she's too wound up in her work..Your Dad isn't treating you like a Father should treat his daughter..I was depressed at your age, soon as i started at secondary school, so i understand perfectly how you are feeling, though i didn't self harm..Please seek help, you can't continue doing this to your body...
I'm here if you ever need me, e-mail me anytime...

don't be stupid, all those ppl r idiots. Just ignore them, find sum gd friends nd b happy.

I am so sorry for your situation. A parent's opinion of you is one of, (if not "THE") most powerful influences on your own self-image, and that is why it sounds to me that your father has not earned his title...,
A father should love and support you, listen and offer experience, not control and deny you and cut you down.
And your mom, as "nice" as she may be, does not (or cannot) provide you with the time and help you need right now..,
Self-harming is not your problem.., it is a symptom of your life circumstances.
You need to find something outside of your home life that makes you happy, or gives you something to look forward to, or gives you a sense of pride..., this may be a job in a grocery store, or a hobby, such as art or music, or volunteer at a charitable place in your town..,
Your parents have you convinced that you are not worth their time and attention. Find a way to prove them wrong (other than hurting yourself). The world will be affected by your efforts, even if your parents aren't.




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Honey - go talk to your school counselor as soon as possible. She/he will have lots of ways to help you, and that's why you have a school counselor!

Here is a website for you, I hope it helps you deal with the cutting issue. Cutting is ALWAYS a response to emotional pain.

One issue you might want to discuss with the counselor is why you became depressed when you started secondary school --what happened at that time, or was it something that was building up...?


But anyway -- you're not alone--and there is help for you. It is just apparent that you are going to have to go outside your family to get that help.

when i was at ur age i had the same problem. a dad who hated me and a mom who loved me but always busy .i used to selfharm myself a lot until i told myself that he isnt worth it , and i started ignoring him completly or give him the ru talking to me look . that will really piss him off . before u cry from his words just walk by him and completly ignore him . he isnt worth ur tears and no one is . soon u will grow up and find out that u dont need him anymore but its his loss not urs . if u need anything just email me and i will be happy to lsn to u and try to help u out .

take care of urself and god bless

DEPRESSION: My standard post follows, but, if you are young, antidepressants are unsuitable for young people. See depression treatments, at ezy build, below, in section 2, and consult a doctor, to eliminate thyroid problems, etc. as possible contributing factors: also seek a referral to a therapist using Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy. It is your decision, and yours alone, as to whether to take any antidepressants offered, but, before you do, read section 1, and check medications out at www.drugs.com and http://crazymeds.us so you will be on the lookout for side effects, like sexual dysfunction. My strong recommendation, however, is to follow the advice of my doctor, his associate, and Nathanial S. Lehrmann, MD, Marcelle Pick, OB/GYN NP, and Dr. Mercola, at www.mercola.com and many others: avoid antidepressants (pages 2V, and 2Z refer, & antidepressant websites: page 2). The reasons why we all share the same view on this are explained in full, as you will find, if you read the whole section. All of their advice, (except prayer, because many people are not religious) I have incorporated into the "core treatments" of the multidimensional approach to treating depression, including occupational therapy, relaxation techniques, and exercise, with others as options, such as the supplements: Inositol, or SAMe, or herbal remedies, like St. John's wort. If you are diagnosed with clinical (major) depression, antidepressants may be necessary for a while, which will give the treatments time to become effective. The antidepressants themselves need at least several days, or even weeks to begin becoming effective. It's a good idea to taper off them slowly, with medical advice, after several months, say, to a couple of years, at most, because they are only effective in the long term for about 30% of people. Because of this, you would be well advised to begin the treatments immediately, and maintain them. I'd just thank your mental health care provider, and pocket the prescription, trying the treatments for a few months, to see if they are sufficient for you, before considering filling it (unless clinically depressed, and having great difficulty functioning, or suicidal, in which case I'd take them). If the amount of daylight you have been exposed to recently has reduced, perhaps due to the change of seasons, see Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A.D.) in section 2, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and, instead of taking 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily; (or, if in the USA, an equivalent quantity of "krill oil", preferably, for its other health benefits: use the searchbar at www.mercola.com/ ) replace 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements for the winter months only! (or, as probably a better alternative to the 2 cod liver oil supplements: 1 teaspoonful of cod liver oil, with a little butter, to ensure its use; I take mine on sourdough rye bread, or toast, covered with fishpaste, and pepper, to mask the strong taste). Consider having your doctor test your vitamin D levels, using the 25 Hydroxyvitamin D test. Optimal levels are 50 - 55 ng/ml (115 - 125 nmol/l. It should be above 32 ng/ml. Those people who receive adequate exposure to sunlight, daily, won't need the vitamin D from cod liver oil, but many people, particularly those in latitudes far from the equator, find this difficult, to achieve.~~~ See self harm, in section 16, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and contact them, when you feel the need to self harm/cut. Seek therapy, to help you address the cause.~~ Visit your school counselor.

I started to self harm , and lied about what had happened to me , it does make you feel a little bit better but if you want to carry on doing it , go ahead , because its your life and you shoulden't listen to all those people that say you shoulden't do it because you should be able to do what you want.