How do you move on ?

How do you move on ?
i was 15 when i entered this relationship . I am now 23 and have a 10 month old son . we were togather for 8.5 years. Last October everything came to a head and i told him to leave . I did my thing he did his , well i wound up back with him , but still it was the same . Now for the last to days he has acted like he has no feelings at all . like he dont care one way or the other. I can see in his eyes that its over . It just hurts me that he dont care . I gave up so much for him and for what to waist almost a decade . WHEN DOSE IT GET BETTER ? ? ? ? ? i just moved in to mu own place , just me and my son . I dont know , its just stange being in that big apartment by my self . Also he was 37 when we got togather , I cant remember why now .

You've obviously taken on a task requiring effort and concentration. I think your salvation lies in your son. Parents often look at a 10 month baby as a burden, just a hollow tube with a loud voice at one end and a lack of control at the other.

Start looking at him as a person. Realize what he's saying by his gestures and tonality. That's the only language he knows now. Be patient with him, while teaching basic things you will love his learnings. He knows and understands more than you can imagine. If he witness' your routine he will learn good habits by example. Take advantage of it and you won't miss anyone.

Good Luck

when your isolated your going to feel that way, which is why they have the saying "An Idol mind is the devil's workshop"

Just get involved in some activities that fill your time so you arent thinking about it all the time.

Trust me it wont just go away, but if you spend time doing positive things and meeting other people, you will have a better chance at moving on faster

Just relax and think of the future. Think of the things that your going to do with your time that is going to make your future brighter. I usually get over people by getting rid of everything they got me and pictures with them in it. Maybe keep one for your son, but don't look at it. If it was really bad, then you did the right thing by leaving. It's always hard, even when it's bad. Just breathe and do something nice for yourself. Sometimes when my head is running and I can't get it to stop, I pick up a good book and a nice cup of tea. It takes your mind off of the pain and puts you in a better place. Good luck to you!

Your son should be your zest for life ;) Watch him grow up.

Time, that's what you need to heal, you should now concentrate on yourself and your son, your still young and have a whole life waiting for you to grab at it, don't let this man hold you back any longer, if he does not care, then you must say, fine, that part of my life is over and another phase is just starting, go to college, get a job, make a good life for you and your little one is the best revenge you can have.......Good Luck

join some mind-refreshing activities even for moms and their child. Just think about caring for your son. Or go for a vacation. go to far places for a while. Just be confident and intelligent. you can make it. keep in mind that you can do it without him.

You were together along time and have a son together, It will take a long time. I admire you and your ability to see that you deserve better. Hang in there and keep busy. I pray and meditate. I talk about it, journal about it and when I want to go back because I'm lonely, I quit thinking about the good times and replay how I was treated by him when the relationship ended, cry and pat myself on the heart for being strong.

Hi; the old saying is ( you live and learn) you are lucky you have only one child with this man, what if you had more children, you would be in a worse financial rut in these days. your still very young. so you still have a life in front of you . I would focus on you and your baby now and do what you have to do for you and your baby, if you worry about what he's doing you will make your life a living hell. while trying to get by. worry about you and you baby now and you will be a lot happier in your life believe me. don't worry ,one day the right man will come along and you will be glade you were where you were in this time of your life and you will be happy for a change don't go back to him you tried ( it did not work out ) so move on with your young life. you hear. be safe and GOD BLESS

You have started moving on already. The pain lingers on. Just let it out. Writing a journal helps. Getting involved in new activities helps alot. Find a parenting group and take your baby and just play and relax and share with other young parents and children. Fill the tub with hot water and lovely scented bubbbles , light a bunch of candles, put on your favorite music and let hurt, anger and resentment flow out of you. Join the gym or get together some friends and get out into the springtime and move your body. Next thing you know, life is different and you've moved on. If it is difficult to deal with your ex around custody of your child, ask friends and relatives for help (maybe not seeing him alone for awhile) It's not easy, but it can be done.Good luck.